Archives for July 2008

Jul 28

Mommy-Daughter Day:)

Here are the Mommies of Mommy/Daughter Day.
Donna and Melissa

And here are the daughters.
Sydney and Hayley Grace

Today was so fun. In fact, it was close to perfect. It was “Mommy-Daughter Day”. Hayley Grace (my 6 yr old daughter) and me, plus my very sweet friend Donna and her daughter Sydney, all went on a picnic after church. Hayley Grace has been looking forward to this day for quite a while now. We originally scheduled it for 2 weeks ago. It didn’t happen. So we rescheduled. Well, today, it happened and it was worth the wait. The 4 of us went to Latta Plantation Park in Huntersville, NC on Mountain Island Lake. We had such a great time.

Our first stop: Kentucky Fried Chicken. Oh yes, I did not count WW Points, in fact, I probably had a week’s worth today. 2 pc dark meat with cole slaw and mashed potatoes and a biscuit! Yum Yum!

If KFC wasn’t enough, we passed a “Cook Out” and had to stop by. This is the BEST greasy food joint evah!

Melissa, Sydney, and Hayley Grace

Donna, Sydney, and Hayley Grace

Here’s the hiking sign that helped to show us the way….

The view from our picnic spot.

Uh-oh! Someone lost her bottoms!

Two great friends having such a great time.

I wish I had more time tonight, but I don’t. I’ll post more tomorrow. Mommy/Daughter Day was one of my favorite days this year. Blessings,

Jul 25

Fun Friday:)

Like I said yesterday, my posts have been so serious lately. But in my defense, they have been a pleasure to write. It has been therapeutic for me…I’d use another word besides therapeutic here that a good friend of mine recently taught me, but I can’t remember it; it started with a “c”…anyway, whatever, I’ll continue with my thoughts. (edit here: Amy and Joy informed me that the word I was thinking of was “cathartic”…you words people…I just love you!) The writing, reading comments, receiving emails, discovering we are not alone and that we are indeed ok and normal, well, it’s been a blessing to me. If I write about the very things that bring me the most pain and that I struggle with the most, it ends up actually helping me. Only God could use what Satan meant to harm me and bring beauty out of it. I Love Him, don’t you?

Today, I listened to Lindsey Kane’s CD, “Move Me Aside”. Oh how I love her music. When I heard her sing for the very 1st time at She Speaks this year I absolutely fell in love with her sound. It was soft, mellow, folksy, and rockin all put together. Then I met her and realized she was just as beautiful as her music….inside and out! My favorite aspect to any song is the lyrics. If a song can tell a good story, I’m hooked. I think that’s why I like Brad Paisley and Jimmy Buffett so much. You can say what you want about either of them, but you can’t argue with their story telling abilities. Same with Carolyn Arrends and Nicole Nordeman. Great singers, great story tellers with their music. Lindsey had that affect on me.
Given what we’ve been discussing over the past week, and it ain’t been too pretty, this music had me feeling beautiful and so in love with my Savior. And did I mention she writes her own songs???? Here’s one titled, “Measure of Beauty”
All beautiful you are My darlingThere is no flaw in youI have to look away by one look of your eyesYou ravish My heart My sister My bride
Chorus:Fearfully and wonderfully made are youCheerfully and beautifully formed are youI will give you eyes to see the way that I measure beauty
Jesus give me eyes to see the way that You measure beautyYou are beautifulYou are beautifulYou are beautiful
Do you hear Jesus saying that to you? And each time He tells me that “I am beautiful”, I add on, “No Matter What” because I just can’t believe He would think such great things about me. Me. Me. Flawed, sinful, ugly, disturbed, misread, misunderstood, lacking, far from perfect, impulsive, etc etc me. That “Me” is beautiful. He says so and He knows all, so I really must be. Yeah! And it’s fun Friday, so let’s celebrate!
Right now, go put on your favorite music. Dance with your kids. Dance with your main man. Dance alone. No, don’t dance alone, dance with God:) Dance with your pet. Sing loud. Sing soft. And if you can’t do this physically right now, just close your eyes and imagine. Bring joy into your life, it’s fun Friday and the God of the universe loves you and thinks that you are mighty special. He’s with you , He’s always been with you. Let the par-tay begin:)
Now, to end this very Fun Friday post, I’m going to share some pictures. Earlier in the month, I shared on this blog how visual I am. And that placing visual reminders around me is very helpful in me remembering who I am and Whose I am. My jewelry does this for me.

Bracelet: Silver, with the word “HOPE”…reminds me to keep hope and always believe:) I bought it for myself.Rings: Middle finger ring says “4GVN”…reminds me that I am. Given to me by my friend, Denise.Pinky rings: My original wedding and engagement ring. Jeff gave me those almost 19 years ago. I will always treasure these.Rings: Wedding ring is new. Just got it last month. A renewal of commitment from my husband. I love the simplicity of the platinum band.Ring on pointer, has a “J” on it. For Jeff, my amazing husband. Bracelets: Cross on one-that’s obvious, points me to Jesus.Verse on the other one- Mark 10:27, With God All Things Are Possible:)Have a wonderful and beautiful weekend friends. Thank you for encouraging me and reminding me that I’m not alone in this life. And now let’s go have fun! Bye-bye!Love,Melissa****One request. Please pray for my dad. He went into the hospital while on vacation this week in Myrtle Beach, SC. Thank you.

Jul 24

Is God Speaking to Me?

God has so much to speak into your life. But if you don’t draw apart from the busyness of your day and spend time alone with Him in quietness and solitude, you will not hear it. Jesus Himself spent much time alone with God. If anyone could get away with not doing it, surely it would have been Him. How much more important must it be for us?

I have a devotion that will be running on Proverbs 31 and Crosswalk next Thursday, July 31st, titled “My Thoughts vs. God’s Word”. It is about combatting the negative thoughts in my head with what God’s Word says about me. My thoughts are not always from God and many times I end up dwelling on more of the negative ones than the positive ones. Especially concerning myself. When I find myself spiralling downward in negative thinking, I also usually realize that I have not been spending enough time in the Word of God.

Life comes at us hard. As I’ve been writing about lately, life can be ugly, sad, defeating, and unfair. And at this point there’s not a lot we can do about it. We can’t go back and change the past. It is what it is. Or should I say, It was what it was. But what about what it can be….

Maybe you don’t know how to be intimate with your husband or you just don’t want to be. Or you have a past that haunts you. You’ve been a bad girl. You haven’t been happy or fulfilled. You don’t feel noticed or speical. You are working hard all day and come home to a messy house each evening. You’ve been exhausted and you’re tired of trying so hard. You’ve heard of God speaking to others, well why isn’t He speaking to you? Maybe He is.

At the top of this post I copied a paragraph written by Stormie O’Martian. Re-read it. Do you believe that God does indeed have much to speak into your life? Sometimes when we are left to our own thoughts or even the thoughts from those in our lives, it doesn’t make us feel much better. God’s Word though is not about self defeating thoughts and feelings. God’s Word tells us the truth, the real truth.

Today, try to find a moment alone. But not totally alone, with the Lord. Pour out your heart. Then listen. No noise. No human voices. No TV. No music. No kids. No husband. No co-workers. Go in the bathroom if you have to. Take a walk. Sit in your car. Whatever it takes, grab a moment with God and ask Him to fill you. Read the Hope verses from a few days ago ( ) or some verses you find on your own. Repeat tomorrow.

The rest of the world may not care or notice you. But God does. And He has something to say. Quiet and calm your self and mind so you can hear Him.

There is hope. You are normal. You are okay. And best of all you are loved tremendously, NO MATTER WHAT. So, get happy, thankful, and praise God for the good He is doing in and all around you. During that quiet time with Him, find some things to thank Him for. Be intentional on noticing them. Keep them with you in your mind during the day.

I’ve been kind of serious this week on my blog, but it’s just what’s been on my mind. Friday is fast approaching, and I’m going to lighten up. Yeah, Fun Friday.

In closing, ask God if He’s speaking to you and if you are having trouble hearing Him, ask Him to give you the spiritual ears to hear Him.

And if you comment here, let us know how you hear God and how you know it’s God you are hearing.

If you wonder why you’ve never heard God, let us know your perspective as well.