I received an email today. The person wrote, “I read your blogs and look at your pictures and just wish I had your life. Your family is so happy. Your husband loves you and communicates with you. Your kids seem so sweet, happy, and behaved. No wonder you can be so positive. It must be nice…”
At first this email kind of hurt my feelings. And it kind of made me mad. Then I realized that it came from someone who is unhappy and when she looks at my life from an outsider’s point of view, it appears real good. I try to share the good and the bad, being open and honest, but without sharing too much. My life is so far from goody goody and perfect. My family is awesome, but oh how we work at it. And it’s not been easy. We’ve pain and heartache just like everyone else. And sure my husband loves me. We’ve had a year of marriage counseling to help preserve that love. Again, it hasn’t been easy. Ooh, and those sweet, happy, and behaved kids…:) , you keep telling yourself that. Ha! Boy do we have you fooled! Seriously, they are good kids, but they have their moments believe me. Heck, one of them even had to go the principal’s office for cursing in Korean! That’s all I’ll say about that!
I share all of this to say, be careful not to think that just because something appears near perfect that it is. We have our share of problems, I for sure do, but I just don’t write about them everyday. They aren’t the focus of my life. As I looked over the past few posts, it does look like we are just always having a blast over here! I wrote about the fun and exciting things. I neglected to write about the ring around my toilet that needs to be cleaned, the mound of laundry waiting to be done, the disagreement my husband and I had last week, the new medication one of my kids started that is keeping him awake at night, my dog peeing on the carpet, the clutter on my kitchen counters, my dad whose health is not good, my aching back, the black roots growing out of my head, my car breaking down on Tuesday, popping the big zit on the nose of a person in my family who I will not name, 2 friends who called me crying this week, or the yelling and screaming I did when my kids would not do as told 25 times the other day! (although if you’ve read much of my stuff, I do write about that too!) With that said, I wouldn’t trade places with anyone in the world, because I am where God wants me to be.
Lysa TerKeurst wrote in one of her books, “The grass is not greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it.” I admit, it often looks a lot greener somewhere else, but the truth is, you just can’t tell. Not unless you are living it.
This past year I spent a lot of time “watering my side of the grass”. And I’m thankful it’s greener today than previously. But it won’t stay that way unless I continue to water it. The best water I’ve found, prayer and faith and a relationship with Jesus. Don’t spend time wishing you could be like someone else. Be who God made you to be and water your space well.
Before I go, I have to mention, I am so glad it’s Thursday. College football starts tonight and this football fanatic couldn’t be happier! So, off I go to prepare a feast of munchies for the family and prepare to watch our South Carolina Gamecocks whoop a little Wolfpack boohiney!