Archives for February 2009

Feb 10

Happy Anniversary to Me and Jeff!

If you asked me what was the best weekend I had ever had in my life was, I could tell you without a doubt. In fact, it just happened.

My husband and I are celebrating our 19 year marriage anniversary on February 10th. If you’ve read my blog ever, then you know that the past few years have not been easy for us. But we never gave up. We believed in our marriage, each other, and that God could restore what had been lost. I’m so thankful that both of us were so committed. We are back and better than ever.

We went away alone together. Our great friends, Kenny and Denise, have a mountain house. I asked them if we could use it for an anniversary getaway and they were thrilled to offer it. I really wanted to surprise Jeff with the weekend. But Jeff hates surprises. So, 2 weeks ago, I told him about it. And we have been looking forward to it ever since. It way surpassed my expectations.

Of course, about 5 zillion things tried to keep us from leaving on time. Work, kid issues, etc etc….we finally left Charlotte at 6:30 pm. And arrived in paradise at 9:00.

Our getaway home was located in the NC mountains. It was unseasonably warm, which was great with me. We spent our first night laying out on the upper deck of the house. We could see every star God created. The moon was almost full. We even heard coyotes howling. Amazing. It was night that I am certain God created just for us. Perfect. No interruptions. It’s crazy how much you can talk about when no one is around to interrupt you. We just talked, laughed, danced, and did other husband and wife activities. :)

Saturday was a day I’ll never forget. Probably most of all because it is one of the only days I remember that I never looked at the time or worried about it. We woke up whenever. Had coffee unaware of the time. Took a drive on the Blueridge Parkway. Went into Boone, where both of us went to college. Then went back on the parkway and had a picnic. Headed back to the house when we noticed the sun was setting. So relaxing. So fun. We really enjoyed each other. We were able to complete sentences. The day ended with us returning to our mountain getaway, watching a movie, cooking dinner, taking a bubble bath, and gazing at the stars again. Paradise.

Take a look:

Jeff standing (posing) in the middle of an open field. Just look at the beautiful color of the sky!

And here is Jeff in our old stomping grounds. Back in the day, this was the TKE House at Appalachian State University. Jeff lived there. (He’s posing again.)

This is Josh. Some call him Joshua. He is as much a part of Boone, NC as The Daniel Boone Inn. He has walked the streets of Boone with no real home for years and years. He was there 20 years ago when we went to school there, and we were so excited to see him still there today. And yes, that is his hair you are seeing.

Our little picnic spot on the Blueridge Parkway at the Moses Cone House.

The view from our picnic. Look lakes freeze in NC too!

The view from the top! This was the view from the home where we stayed. Amazing!

No better way to end a fabulous day than with a fabulous bubble bath in a huge jacuzzi tub.

Sunday morning came too soon. Although no alarm clock woke us up, we knew that once we got up, it would be time to enter back into the “real world” again soon.

Did we have a great time together? Yes.
Do I recommend some time away together for every couple? Yes.
Did I miss my kids? No. (sorry, but I didn’t!)
Do I feel like our marriage was officially restored? Yes.

Jeff, If and when you read this…I want you to know how much I choose to love you. Thank you so much for making me a priority in your life. Because of you, I am a better person than I ever dreamed I could be. The Love Dare comes easy when it’s you I’m daring to love! My tank is full. This was the best weekend of my life.

19 years of marriage doesn’t come easy. But the view from the top is worth every bit of work and effort.

Happy Anniversary to Me and Jeff….wow, it seems like just yesterday that I walked down the aisle to become his wife. Best decision I ever made.



Feb 6

25 Random Things

If you are on Facebook, this may be familiar to you. 25 Random things. That seems to be the latest fad on there.

I’ve had a Facebook page for a year now. I admit it. I love it! I have reconnected with people that I have no doubt I would have never seen or heard from again. I not only have connected with old friends but also: kept in better touch with my cousins; related to my kids in a new way;kept in touch with friends from blogging, conferences, and P31; my mother, father, and mother in law are on there; shared pictures; and become partially addicted to new games (Scramble and Word Challenge). I love Facebook.

Well, the latest thing to do on Facebook has been “25 Random Things”. In recent weeks, personal information has spread furiously across Facebook via a simple application many of us have come to know as the “25 Random Things” note. The premise is simple: Users write 25 random things about themselves. when they’re done, they send the list to 25 of their friends and encourage them all to continue the chain. It’s been a great way to learn stuff about friends and family that I never knew. I knew many people were participating, including me. But I was super surprised to see “25 Random Things” on the front page of “The Charlotte Observer”, our local newspaper. The front page!!!! Is it that popular???? Evidently so. Either that, or there’s just not much news to report.

So, in honor of the popularity of the “25 Random things”, I figured I’d go ahead and post mine here. Here they are. 25 Random Things about Melissa…..and in typical Melissa fashion, I couldn’t stick to the rules….I had to list 30!

1. My husband is by far the most amazing person I’ve ever known. I am a better person today for being with him for so long. I know I can always count on him.

2. My children, Blake, Hayden, Dylan, and Hayley Grace…and even Princess (yes, my sweet doggie) brighten my everyday with their love, humor, excitement, and acceptance.

3. My cousins absolutely rock!!!! I have the greatest cuzins in all the world. Love them to pieces.

4. The funniest people I know are: Jeff, Robbie, my dad, and Dylan.

5. My mother is the most beautiful woman I know.

6. God is the center of my world. Seriously, Jesus rocks my world and I have dedicated my whole life to Him.

7. Brad Paisley can sing to me anytime and anywhere. She’s Everything would be my choice. :)

8. Elvis Presley music gives me a good warm cozy feeling. I remember dancing to an Elvis 8-track when I was 4 yrs old with my parents.

9. I love having Girl’s Night with Hayley Grace, Donna, and Sydney.

10. I miss my Fab 5 like you just don’t know.

11. I have the greatest job ever. I work with the funnest and most amazing people. Going to work is one of the highlights of my day!

12. Van Halen was the first concert I ever went to. I went with Donna Faulkner. I learned about things I did not know existed.

13. I love the beach. The ocean, the sand, the shells, the waves, sunrise, and sunset. Nothing more peaceful to me than the beach. I hope to live there one day. Really I do.

14. Disney World is my favorite family vacation.

15. I’m either fit or fat. Never been much of in between. I’m still looking for a happy medium.

16. I am currently reading The Chronological Bible, The Love Dare, and Sunrise.

17. I am a speaker and writer for Proverbs 31 Ministries. This has taken me to New York, California, and The Bahamas…places I had never been to prior. It has also given me the sweetest friends…friends that feel like family.

18. My dog, Princess, was the best birthday present I ever received. The 2nd best was my trip to Greensboro to see Def Leppard, Styx, and REO Speedwagon…just last year! Great memories.

19. I’ve seen Jimmy Buffett more than anyone else in concert….or maybe Duran Duran.

20. I miss my grandparents more than I can say.

21. My favorite movie is Steel Magnolias. I also love Doris Day movies.

22. I am a Gamecock by birth. Mountaineer by college allegiance. Gator by my son, Hayden. I just love college football to the point of passion.

23. I am content with what I have.

24. I say “I Love You” to Jeff and my kids every day.

25. I sponsor a child through Compassion International. Her name is Maria. She is beautiful. I consider this sponsorship one of the most meaningful, valuable,and important things I’ve ever been a part of.

26. (yes I know it says 25, but I have more) I love my church. You should visit sometime if you have a moment. It has changed my family in great ways.

27. It is my 42nd birthday today.

28. I love American Idol. I’ve met many of the Idols including Fantasia, Taylor Hicks, and David Cook. David Cook is my favorite. I also met Chris Daughtry and Kelly Pickler. That does not make me better than you. It was just fun.

29. I have 2 toes stuck together on both of my feet. Do NOT call me a duck.

30. I am happy thanks to Lexapro. Ha! Just kidding. Well, kind of. I am happy thanks to God and you! Love life. Love to laugh. It’s all good.

There’s the big 25…well 30! So what’s the big deal? Idk! But it has made a big splash across Facebook and the front page of the paper.

I am heading to the mountains tomorrow where I will have no cell phone service and no internet. I’ll be with Jeff, my husband and no one else. We are celebrating our 19 yr wedding anniversary. I am so excited about this. Our friends, Kenny and Denise, have a mountain house and they have graciously offered to let us have it for the weekend to get away. It’s been so long since we’ve had time away alone. I’m so thankful for this time we have been given. Jeff’s parents are keeping our kids and Princess (sweet doggie). OH, I CAN’T WAIT!!!!!!!!!!

Have a great weekend and thanks for welcoming me back into the bloggy world.


Feb 5

Random Thoughts….

I’m almost emabarrassed (and if I just mispelled embarrassed, I’m even more embarrassed!) because I have a blog and I did not post for the entire month of January. In fact I have a few blogs and didn’t post on any of them. Not only that, I haven’t read any of my favorite blogs either.

When I started my blogs, I had such grand plans for them. First this one…my general blog, Then my blog, which addressed both my struggle and my passion for us all to know we are beautiful just because God made us. And finally, in August, 2008, I started a blog for teens. I have such a heart for teen girls. As I tried to keep it all up, I just became overwhelmed. As the old saying goes, I bit off more than I can chew.

I thought about merging 2 of my blogs, but I have since reconsidered. I am putting the teen blog on hold. Truthfully, teens are not into blogging. I may end up using that blog for something and I may not. For now, I’m not. But I have made a decision to keep this blog and the “I Am Beautiful” blog active. For a while, not only have I not been blogging, but I also haven’t been writing devotions, articles, or studying and preparing for my messages like I usually do. I have just been in a state of paralysis or something. Slack maybe. Resting maybe. I’ve been spending time with my family. And I have been reading a lot. And most importantly, I’ve been working so hard on my marriage. I started “The Love Dare” and I’m half way through. I’m sure I’ll write more on that later because it has made such a huge impact on me, the way I view marriage, and my marriage itself.

This weekend Jeff and I are leaving on a getaway for just the 2 of us. Our friends, Kenny and Denise, have a gorgeous mountain house with amazing views. We are leaving Friday and staying the weekend. We haven’t been away with no kids in a few years. I am so excited. I can’t wait. We will have no internet connection, no cell phone connection, and no kids. Whatever will we do? 😉

I’m watching basketball right now. I’m a football girl, but since football is over, I’m hopping on the bb train for a while. Still pulling for the same teams though.

It snowed last night. My kids had no school today. I’m hoping they will be back in school tomorrow.