Jan 27

Today is My Birthday

And I’m spending the day with my Mama!!!  I have to admit it’s been one of the hardest working birthdays I’ve had. Mom is quite high maintenance today!  And sassy.  She’s running me ragged.  I told her to be patient, I was working as quickly and efficiently as I could…washing sheets, scrubbing the sinks, fixing her BLT with extra crispy bacon, adjusting pillows behind her head, and refilling her cup of water (milk with the BLT though)…and did I mentiion ALL AT THE SAME TIME!  Who does this woman think she is?  Ha ha, just kidding, but I did let her know that it was MY  birthday …and she let me know that it was she who gave birth to me.  Well then, ok Mom, you win :)

Mom is in a great mood today and it has changed me drastically. I’ve been so down, but today she’s brightened me and for that I thank God.  He has provided a wonderful day on my birthday to spend with Mom.  Thanks God, I love you so much for this.

Admittedly, I’m a little behind in my NT reading.  Because of this, I am sharing a post from my pastor’s blog, he’s not behind. :)  I hope you like this, it spoke straight to my heart.

Just Like Jesus Said (Luke 22:7-13)

They left and found things just as Jesus had told them. So they prepared the Passover.

-Luke 22:13

Jesus gave the disciples very specific instructions about the preparations they needed to make for the Passover meal. SeeLuke 22:7-12.

The disciples followed His instructions to the detail. And everything was in place, just like Jesus said.

I can’t count the number of times God has called me to take a step of obedience that seemed somewhat far fetched at the time. But when I got to the place where he told me to go, I found things just as Jesus told me they would be.

When God calls you to obey Him in your finances, career, or relationships, do it. And once you get there, you’ll find everything is in its place.

Just like Jesus told you.

Don’t you love that Jesus keeps His promises?  Obedience can be scary.  Sometimes doing what God has asked us to can mean we are doing something we’ve never done. Something we don’t think we could ever be capable of. Something that is beyond our reach. Something that others will frown upon. Something that will let someone else down. Something that requires we work a little harder. And sometimes it means doing NOTHING at all.

Obedience has been a requirement for me lately. (of course it always should be, but I’ve been very intentional about seeking the Lord diligently in recent times.  Honestly, I haven’t really liked what I’ve heard.  It wasn’t matching up with my agenda, my dreams, or what I’ve wanted. But just like the disciples, in my obedience, I’ve found everything in it’s place. Decision making is easier because I know what it is I need to do. I don’t need to apologize to anyone, because I’m obeying God and I know that.

I’ve been in the process of developing new topics for my speaking and writing ministry.  My writing has received great confirmation from readers.  Speaking is something I long to do, it’s in my soul and calls me. I was ready to begin pursuing excellence like never before in this area of my life.  God has made it quite clear that ministry as I would like it, is not in His plan right now.  My Mom is dying.  As much as hate writing that, it’s the truth. She accepts it and I do too, but I hate it. (just sayin)  In 2010, God has shown me where my efforts need to be.  I have 4 priorities.  The Lord is #1.  My family is #2.  Caring for my Mom and spending quality time with her is also #2.  My office job at Proverbs 31 is #3.  Attending Bible Study on Fridays and church on Sunday (either in person or live online) are #4.  That’s it.  As I’ve obeyed God in these areas, He has blessed me because of it.  My focus has never been better.  For the first time ever, I had to pull out of 2 speaking events this Spring.  That may not sound like a big deal to you, but it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.  I cried my eyes out as I met with Barb Spencer, P31’s Speaker Coordinator, and she made the calls. While it was terribly hard for me though, a sense of relief surrounded and filled me afterwards. The 2 event coordinators were so gracious and understanding, even though this puts them in a tight spot.  Their gracious response as well as a note I received from Lysa TerKeurst confirmed that I had done the right thing. The following days with my Mom further confirmed this.

Pastor Steven wrote:   I can’t count the number of times God has called me to take a step of obedience that seemed somewhat far fetched at the time. But when I got to the place where he told me to go, I found things just as Jesus told me they would be. And I have witnessed this in my life.

Of course, with obedience to God, fear tries real hard to grab me…and it has succeeded a few times. Well, more than a few times.  Fear whispers:

Melissa, you don’t speak now and you never will again.

You are going to lose support.

No one will want to hear you later. You aren’t quitting because of God, you are quitting because you stink at what you do and you are scared.

Proverbs 31 doesn’t need you anyway.

God doesn’t need you.  He doesn’t want to use you.

And oh, so your family is your 2nd priority…ha! What a joke. Great job you are doing with them, kids fixing their own suppers and always looking for clean clothes to wear…and Jeff, geez, there is not a more deprived guy on the planet right now!

Obey God. Follow your new priority list. You’ll see, you are not as needed as you may think.

You don’t need to spend time with your Mom.  She doesn’t even remember you are there half of the time.

Shut up!!!!  Enough of that already.  Those are lies. I hear them in my head and go to the Lord right away and ask Him to fill me with His truth. He has NEVER let me down.  And my family, friends, and God centered business relationships haven’t either.  Everything is in place.

I don’t trust the voice of fear, I know that it’s not from God.

Today is my birthday and I’m celebrating.  I’m celebrating my 43rd year of life.  I’m celebrating the gift of more time with my sweet Mama.  I’m celebrating the contentment in my heart I have through Jesus.  And I’m celebrating obedience.

Hey, why don’t you celebrate my birthday too!  Do something crazy fun and sing Happy Birthday to Melissa :)  People might think you are crazy for doing it, but that’s half the fun!

Love to All!



  1. Dear Melissa, happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Melissa….happy birthday to YOUUUUUUUU!!! I sang it out loud, here in my living room, as I wrote this to you. One of my cats lifted one sleepy eye and peered at me, then lowered it again and drifted back to sleep. She didn’t seem to mind.
    Happy Birthday my friend and may you be BLESSED by your obedience. A wonderful birthday post today…you are so real, so genuine. love you, Shari

  2. Sara Anne Canno says:

    Ihave never read a piece that had me crying froms sadness and then from laughter…
    Happy Birthday my sweetheart! We (the Cannons) love you!

  3. You are a true blessing Melissa and such an inspiration. I love your writings. They really touch me.

    Happy Birthday!!! :)

  4. Jennifer Renee says:

    This Birthday wish has come today to bring a special prayer that God will always bless you with his love and with his care. May He always smile on you and send you from above the things that bring true happiness for you and those you love.
    Melissa, I’m so glad you’re not listening to the spirit of fear and the lies that Satan would want you to believe. You are doing the things that God needs you to do right now. That is spend time with your mother while you can. Enjoy your time with her. You’re a very special person and you mean a lot to me.

  5. Happy birthday, Melissa! I have been blessed by reading your blogs and am thankful for you. God bless you!

  6. My dear Melissa,

    Happy Birthday to ya! Happy Birthday! (singing Stevie wonder version for you) What a precious, loved and beautiful sister you are. Your words always touch my heart. You are right where you need to be with the Lord and your priorities are solid. You will have your speaking engagements again in His time and you will be wonderful because you shine for Jesus and not this world. I may not know you personally but your words shared on your blogs and facebook show me who you are. Tomorrow I will celebrate my 42nd birthday and for me it will be a milestone because my Mom died when she was 41 and I thought for sure that I would not live longer than she did. She has been gone 20 years this year and I wish I had the time to spend with her before she left this planet. Cherish the time with your mother and hold on to every second which I know you are. God gives us amazing strength when we are at our weakest and the enemy throws as many lies as he can at us when we are weak. But as I am learning and you know to be true we don’t have to listen to those lies. We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. I will be praying for you. God bless you.

  7. Melissa,
    Happy belated birthday to you!!! Continue in your obedience to God and He will not fail you. I believe that if we are obedient to God then everything else will fall into place-maybe not as soon as we want or exactly by our plans or methods- but God’s timing is always perfect. This is a tough season you are going through with your Mom right now, but look forward to the finish line. When we get to heaven she will be one of the first ones to greet you with open arms. Do not listen to satan, the author of lies. Our hope is in Christ.

  8. HI sweet Melissa – I am celebrating that you are in my life. You are beautiful and I love you and God loves you right now in the midst of all the hard things you’re looking at. Your focus is right where it needs to be. I posted Isaiah 42:16 on my blog today – He will make the rough places smooth. I love you!

  9. I see much love, beauty and wisdom in this post.

    HAPPY BRITHDAY, sweet friend! Did you like the cake I sent you? :)

  10. Anonymous says:

    HI sweet friend! Hope you got my birthday wishes on facebook buried by those of your other fans! But remember I knew you before all of them!!! I am celebrating with Melanie – that you are in my life. And you are being a great mom, daughter and wife. You are being all that HE created and called you to be in this moment. It’s all He wants. It’s all He needs. Your family loves you and can rally for such a time as this. It’s making them very responsible and appreciative of all they have in you! And in Jesus. I love you so much! Happy BIRTHDAY again and again!

  11. You are a special gal Melissa…not only to me, but so many others. And know that He is still doing a good work in and through you…the best is yet to come my friend!

  12. Hope your day was very blessed Melissa. The 27th is such a special day, you were born and my son Will was born :)

    God Bless Sister,

  13. Happy, Happy “late” Birthday:) You have been such a blessing to me. I know that we don’t know each other, but your writings and transparency stir something in my soul. Some of your devotions have touched me to the core and know without a doubt that God has used you in a mighty way.

    Obedience is scary. I am dealing with some issues right now with a decision I made a few months back. I started graduate school and it ended up not working out. I thought I was obeying Him. Long story short, I am having to fight the lies big time right now. I find myself repeating scripture to my self. Over. And. Over. Again.

    But, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love Him more than I did yesterday:) I am praying for you. Praying for your mom. Praying for your speaking ministry. Praying for your writing ministry.

    In Christ Alone,

  14. Happy birthday, Melissa! I’m glad you got to spend your birthday with your sweet Mama. God will surely bless you as you follow His sweet whispers. :)

  15. Too bad you weren’t listening on your b-day…I played “Hungry Like a Wolf” for you! Love you!

  16. Sandy Conaghan says:

    Feb. 18, 2010

    Thanks for sharing really helped me today.