Top 10 Ways To Love Your Husband
by Melissa Taylor
10. Tell him every day that you love him. Every day. At least 3 times a day. Speak it. Text it. FaceBook it. Tweet it. But make sure he hears it and he knows it.
9. Do something for him in secret. Don’t worry about getting credit for it or if he notices. Just keep it between you and the Lord. Find joy in doing something kind or helpful, yet secretive for him.
8. Have sex with him. (I know you just rolled your eyes at me!) Blunt: yes. Unnecessary: no Most men need this from their wives and most women are often too exhausted to have this at the top of their priority list. You know your man better than anyone else. Only you can give him the gift of you. Share yourself with your husband and ask the Lord to bless the bed of your marriage.
7. Read The Husband Project by Kathi Lipp and dedicate 21 days to loving your man with purpose and intention. This book blessed me, my husband and our marriage so much! I was especially surprised by how I fell more in love I felt while going through the projects. Grab a few girlfriends and do this together! That’s what I did. I loved it so much that it’s the next Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study. (The study begins June 20, 2016- why don’t you join me?)
6. Read 1 Corinthians 13 and write down the qualities of love mentioned in this chapter. Ask yourself: Do I love my husband this way? Then ask God to give you His supernatural ability to love. Because I’ll just say it plain and simple, there is nothing natural about love. It’s not a feeling, it’s an action…one you have to decide to have and give.
5. Date him. If he’s not into planning a date, then do it yourself. Make time for your relationship away from the grind and routine of every day life. This doesn’t require money, it only requires time. My last date with my husband took place at our home. We had dinner alone and listened to our favorite music. We gave each other massages. We did some other things too, but I’ll skip that part! We ended the night by watching a movie in bed together. He said it was the perfect date! On another date, we met for lunch while the kids were in school. Once we sat on our back patio and cooked out together. Every date is different and depends on the circumstances, but I personally think this is vital to a marriage.
4. Allow your husband to overhear you telling someone something great about him! Compliment him in front of your family and/or friends. Never speak negatively of him in front of others.
3. Learn your husband’s love language. Often the biggest barrier in a marriage relationship is just failing to know the way you and your spouse like to give and receive love. Sadly, my husband and I didn’t learn this until we had been married 18 years. My #1 love language was his #6. His #1 love language was my #6. Think we had a problem here? Uh huh. But it wasn’t a problem that couldn’t be worked on. We just both needed to apply effort in the way we gave love to each other. (Love Languages: Words: written or spoken, Touch: non sexual, Touch: sexual, Quality time, Gifts, Acts of service)
2. Forgive yourself for anything in your past that may keep you from loving your husband completely. Forgive your husband the same. It’s never too late to start anew.
1. Pray for your husband. Make this your #1 priority in your marriage. Even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. Too often prayer is considered what you do when all else fails. Maybe all else wouldn’t fail if we prayed first. Just sayin’….
This post is dedicated in honor of my husband, Jeff. Today is our 20th wedding anniversary. I love you sweetheart! Thanks for being patient with me as I learn each year how to love you even better. The best is yet to come!