Mar 31

A Message from Mom

As promised, I’m putting the Eulogies from Mom’s funeral on my blog.  If you missed yesterday’s, please go back and read it. It was Becca’s words written and spoken for her beloved “MawMaw”.  I said I was going to post Blake’s today, but have decided to wait and post his tomorrow.  Instead, today you’ll be reading the words that I spoke.

A Message from Mom…

First, I just have to say how much all of you have meant to our family.  We love you and know you loved Becky.

I stand here today not to tell you what my mother meant to me or how wonderful of a woman she was.  I hope you already know that.  I stand her today to give you a message from her.  This is what she wants you to know.

Mom and I had a lot of time together over the past 1 ½ years.  We took time to talk and dream.  I asked her if she could impart any wisdom to others, what would it be?  She said, “2 things”:

1. Don’t place your faith in things of this world.  All of them are temporary.  As someone who knew she was dying, Mom learned that only God could provide everything she needs.  Nothing else made her feel at peace but God.  There’s a reason for that.  She knew that what God offered was real…it  was permanent…and no one could take it away.  And she’s right.  Here are a few verses from God’s Word that have really helped us, specifically Mom, over the past few months:

Joshua 1:9- “Have I not commanded you, “Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”  The fact that Mom knew God was with her, was all the courage she needed.  And her courage in these last few months has been a beautiful example to us all.

Denise Hammond, a dear friend to our family, shared another passage of Scripture with us that brought strength and peace.

Psalm 73:23-26, “Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand.  You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory…  My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”  Becky wants all of you to know that she was able to face this because of God.  She didn’t die scared.  She cried because she didn’t want to leave all of us.  But she had peace knowing that God would be with her to carry her into glory.  She said she’d tried to find peace like that, but never found it until she decided to trust the Lord.

2. Don’t smoke.  She really struggled with guilt over her lung cancer.  It could have been prevented.  Knowing that, she hopes that through her life, someone else’s life will be saved.  She was never preachy about it, but she doesn’t want anyone to suffer like she did. And she doesn’t want anyone’s family to suffer like hers has.  Eventually she came to terms with it.  And again, we find hope and strength in God’s Word.  Philippians 1:18-20 sums up the joy she was able to find through her suffering:

“Yes, and I will continue to rejoice, for I know that through your prayers and the help given by the Spirit of Jesus Christ, what has happened to me will turn out for my deliverance.  I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death.”

In her death, we hope you have seen Jesus.

Other things we discussed:

Mom’s favorite word:  Hope.

Word that describes her best:  Courage.

Favorite flower: Yellow Tose

Favorite color:  Purple

Favorite Sport: Football

Favorite vacation spot: Ocean Drive

Proudest moment: The births of her kids and grandkids.

Her Loves:

Buddy.

Maggie. (her dog)

Shagging.

Laughing with friends.

Her family.

Kings Gate in Florida.

Pepperidge Farm Apple Turnovers.

The Gamecocks.  (and she was thrilled that the last USC/Clemson game she got to see, the Gamecocks won.)

Thank you all so much for coming today to remember Becky Nunn.  If she were here, she would tell you not only to remember her, but to celebrate life.

Besides our friends and family, I’d also like to thank those that cared for Mom during her illness.  Dr. Pamela Sinclair and her staff at Cancer Specialty Center, various doctors and nurses at Carolinas Medical Center, and most of all Agape Hospice here in Rock Hill.  Margaret and Pat, Mom’s nurses from Hospice meant so much to Mom and our family.  These women are truly gifts from God and we will never forget them.

Finally I’d like to share with you what Mom shared with me as her #1 life lesson: And I quote her on this,  “Cherish each and every day.  Love your family while you’re with them.”

Praying you will indeed cherish today and love those you are with.

Melissa

Comments

  1. Melissa,
    Thank you for sharing…not just these words and lessons, but your work through this difficult time. It was encouraging to see God strengthen you and provide His peace. He is good and so is the work He does through you. Praying for you now, Jill

  2. Beautiful!

  3. Thank you for sharing this, Melissa. It is just the encouragement I needed this morning as we face a tough day ahead.

  4. Simply beautiful.

  5. That was beautiful. Thanks for sharing such great wisdom with all of us.

  6. Melissa that was so beautiful.Thanks for sharing that with us. You are so encouraging and very courageous. Blessings

  7. Kim Osborne says:

    Hi there Melissa

    Thanks so much for sharing. I have just lost my dad on 30 June this year, and am so battling with the whole grieving process and not feeling like I have purpose to my life. I was his caregiver for the past 9 years, and yes, he was a child of the King and I will see my dad again. But its so hard – so thank you for all your encouragement. Bless you

  8. Gayna Petrolino says:

    I so much appreciate your sharing of this message. I witnessed my own mother’s similar courageous battle with cancer in September. ~thank you~