Jun 30

Blog and Facebook Etiquette 101

If you have trouble viewing the vlog below, click the title of this post or click here.

I hope this helps clear up some questions and emails I’ve received lately about the purpose of the blog and Facebook.  It is my sincere prayer and hope that all who visit me here on my blog or on one of my Facebook pages would feel accepted, loved, and welcome.

Have a great day y’all!



  1. Sabrina says:


    Thank you so much for this video. This is my first time doing an online bible study and the information you gave on blog etiquette really helps.

  2. Great vlog! Thanks so much for putting this together. I would add that another reason to limit personal information is to protect oneself – someone might share something now that a few years down the road they wish they hadn’t – but with social media, once it’s out there, it can’t be taken back. Melissa, you did such a great job of explaining this in a caring, loving, and nonjudgmental way – thank-you!!!

  3. You Go Girl!!! I ditto Alex!

  4. Joanna c says:

    Thanks Melissa,
    It’s hard for me to speak up sometimes, you showed me how to do it in love. Great role model.
    I am getting off the mat of passive aggressiveness with My Lord by my side

    • Joanna,

      I hope we hear more from you :) I know I would love to get to know you better!
      Thankful you are getting off your mat!


      • Joanna c says:

        Thanks Melissa, I will be on more. I have been squeezed thighs the last month becuz I am a single mother and taking Care of my mom too.

        Today I told the Lord that I surrender what happened in past to Him, I see that it’s my ministry to let Him use it to heal other women.
        My past is what helps me relate to women who have been through it . Now I see so clear it’s my way to glorify a loving, merciful, forgiving God.
        He loves to give us second chances so that He can bless us. Everything He asks of us is so in return we can be blessed that’s all.
        What a Husband He is :)

  5. Kristi Deitrick says:

    Thanks for this vlog, Melissa, it clears up some things I was wondering about. Thanks again for this study and to Wendy Blight for writing the book. Have a wonderful day!

  6. Darlene says:

    Thanks for the etiquette lesson, it was very informational. Love to watch your vlogs, your beauty shines through everytime.

  7. Jennifer says:

    I’ve been reading a book of devotions called Walking With God in the Quiet Places. I read one on Tuesday and I feel like it fits us somehow. It really blessed me. God has a plan for our lives but we can’t stay on our mat.
    This is just a portion of it. Oh, I pray posting this is ok. I don’t want it to be too long but it encouraged me and I want to encourage someone else. I don’t know how to use facebook to post this there.

    Kay Arthur
    Words of Faith When You Wonder If Life Has Any Purpose

    Do you realize how absolutely precious you are to God? Do you realize the significance of your life? It has a purpose. A specific purpose! As Ephesians 1:11 (nasb) says, we live “according to His purpose”–and His purpose is always the very best! You are not an accident! You are not useless. You are not worthless. You are not unredeemable. Your worth and purpose in this life do not depend on who you are, on what you have done, or on what has been done to you. Your worth and purpose do not depend on where you have been, even if you have been to the very precipice of hell. Your worth and purpose depend on God and God alone. His will, His calling, His choosing, His love. He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption… through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will (Ephesians 1:4-5 nasb).

    • “Your worth and purpose do not depend on where you have been, even if you have been to the very precipice of hell. Your worth and purpose depend on God and God alone.”

      I LOVE THIS!!!! Going to post this on the Online Bible Studies FB page today.
      Thank you so much for sharing Jennifer :)


    • WOW Jennifer, this is great. Exactly what I needed to see before going to the Dr. this afternoon to see how my biopsy turned out. There’s a purpose for everything! God’s purpose is always the best! My life has a purpose!

      • I have no idea why it put in the first sentence in my comment. I have no idea what that means.

    • Love this! Thank you so much!!! I am so glad that I am not just who I am, but who I am in HIm =) Blessings!!!

  8. Morning all, I haven’t watched the V blog yet, still tying to wake up, but I agree with Darlene, your beauty does shine threw and its so great. I especially love your hair today, its kind of sassy … And thats so you,,,, I love it!!!

    In my morning reading I read John one again, and for some reason it spoke to me like it never has before,,, It says that the Word ( which I am assuming is the bible) John 1 it says “in the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God.” AS I sat sipping my coffee it occurred to me if the Word , was God then when we Hold the Word ( bible) in our hands we are holding God. How wonderful is it to be able to hold such an AWESOME piece of literature in my hands, What a treasure…..

    ( am I wrong to interpret it that way)?

    • Vikki Huntwork says:

      Debi, if that is how God revealed it to you today, then I’d say that it fits for today. I have been taught that the Word (in this passage) means Jesus. Jesus is the Word made flesh. Right? In the NASB it talks about this being the Diety of Jesus Christ. Verse 1 says “In the beginning was the Word (capitalized, as in a person’s name), and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. Verse 2: HE (the Word/meaning Jesus) was in the beginning with God. Verse 3: All things came into being by Him, and apart from Him nothing came into being that has come into being. (that would include the literal word or book of God too!) Verses 4-5: In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it.” Hope this helps! I really like the revelation you have been given. We hold the Word of God in our hands (His literal word) in our hearts (literal word and His Son, Jesus) and our minds! Awesome!!! :) Hugs!

      • True , and since I posted this before coffee I saw the mistake- I agree it was Jesus. But I may be covered because it also says that “My Father and I are one, does it not? ( looking for clarity her as well) Thats what I was referring to . The Word was God. Thanks for clarity. Now that I’ve had coffee I see what you are talking about.

        • Vikki Huntwork says:

          LOL! HUGS!! 😀 (and yes, you are correct!) Have a blessed day! (you can search my name on fb if you would like to connect, it’s the same as on here)
          Hope this is okay, Melissa! :)

    • Debi,
      This is beautiful. I looked in my Life Application Study Bible under John 1:1 and this is what it said:
      “…In Greek philosophy, the Word was the principle of reason that governed the world, or the thought still in the mind, while in Hebrew thought, the Word was another expression for God. John’s description shows clearly that he is speaking of Jesus (see specifically John 1:14)—a human he knew and loved, but at the same time the Creator of the universe, the ultimate revelation of God, the living picture of God’s holiness, the One in whom ‘all things hold together’ (Colossians 1:17)….to John, this new understanding of the Word was gospel, the Good News of Jesus Christ.”

      Hope that helps. I usually have to glance down at the explanations in my Bible LOL! It helps me tremendously. I love your intrepretation of God’s Word, because I believe the same verses can speak differently to different people. So true what you said, when we Hold the Word ( bible) in our hands we are holding God. How wonderful is it to be able to hold such an AWESOME piece of literature in my hands, What a treasure….. ”

      Thanks so much for sharing!

  9. Great post, Melissa! In this new modern age full of social media, people will type things without thinking it through. We have to think about what we type ten times as long as what we say ~ words from the mouth are forgotten way more easily than those typed out for all to see! Great advice for all of us, even if we think we know already. In line with that, I have been mulling over my blog post concerning my “mat” for the past couple of days and hope to get my thoughts together today. Thanks again for all you do!

  10. Stephanie says:

    This was handy and informative. I prefer commenting on someone’s blog than on facebook. Facebook is less private than a personal blog.

  11. Great vlog, Melissa – thanks! Great reminders, all.

    The internet is a fantastic resource, but it is true that once you put something out there, it’s there forever. Even scarier, with social media like Facebook, if you post photos or put info out there, Facebook has the right to re-print and use your info for THEIR purposes.

    Big brother IS watching, so please be careful, ladies…be careful not to put info like your home location, your full birthdate, info about your kids (pedophiles ARE watching), kid photos that could be considered compromising in any way, when you are away from home (thieves are watching), etc.

  12. kim spring says:

    Thanks Melissa! I find myself skipping the comments that are long and I’m probably missing some good stuff from that person. Who knows. The computer may be a form of a “mat”. Love to all! Kim

  13. Vikki Huntwork says:

    Online Bible Studies can be difficult. When a group of women want to discuss something, it is vital that they have access to one another. Be it RL or online. I know that you have a discussion board on your FB bible study page, but those can sometimes be hidden and people don’t understand them. Friendships are formed, people are ministered to and God moves. I’d like to make a suggestion that you might want to consider (food for thought): Start an online website dedicated to your Bible studies. A place where people can go, share, start threads, get to know each other (and yes, be careful with personal info, but you can also make this a private site. I’ve been a part of several in the past.) Just a thought! HUGS!! :)

    • Vikki,
      Thanks for sharing your suggestions. I do appreciate them and understand where you are coming from. These are really my blog and Facebook decisions…not rules about anyone else’s blog and fb page. Just my boundaries. And I have reasons for them. I cant’ make my blog private, God has called me to do it this way. I want anyone to be able to read and come here for a dose of God’s Word in action or just to visit even if they aren’t in the study. I also want anyone to be able to join at any time. Starting a new website may seem ideal, but that takes time I just don’t have. I have as much running right now as I can handle. But I appreciate you sharing those. They are great ideas! And a suggestion for you….(are you ready?) You could start a group…or a place where you could invite this type of interaction. Especially if you feel it’s needed among the friends you’ve made here. Nothing wrong with that at all, in fact I encourage it.

      Thanks Vikki for your thoughts :)

      • Vikki Huntwork says:

        Hmmm….”Get off the mat” LOL! 😀 Thank you, Melissa! I know what you mean about time. I didn’t necessarily mean to make the blog private, I meant if there was a forum. Hmm….I’ll have to pray about that and seek God on it. :) Thank you for the encouragement!

  14. Tracy Hays says:

    Thanks for the vlog, Melissa. I haven’t commented to gone through comments in a while as they were getting overwhelming. Like most of us, I have limited time & want to see what’s going om with everyone, but can’t spend hours doing so.

    This study is great & helping me daily! Lots of tough stuff going on. Not so much in my life, but church friends & other friends & acquaintances. (New diagnoses of cancer, tragic accidents, sickness, etc). Have literally heard something horrible everyday. It is good to be doing this study that reminds me God is good, His Word is true, & even when things don’t FEEL good &’peaceful, He can still be trusted & taken at His word.

    And I live in Greenville, SC, so a very small, quiet “Yay” for the Gamecocks! :)

    • Tracy,
      I will be praying for you. I’m the prayer coordinator for Proverbs 31 Ministries. Would it be ok if I send your request to our prayer team? It would be our honor to pray for you.

      And just for the record, you don’t ever have to be quiet about the GAMECOCKS, that would be an exception to the rule :) And I was born in Greenville…LOVE IT THERE. Almost my entire family lives there. :)

      • Tracy Hays says:

        Know you are on vacation this week, so don’t know when you will get this. But, absolutely you can pass on my prayer request! Anytime. Specifics have a dear, friend & mentor at church that has been diagnosed with cancer. Since my last post, found out it is pretty much everywhere. I call him my “Church Dad”. He & his wife love me like a daughter. His name is Jim. He has such a testimony through this. He loves & trusts God & is rejoicing for the life he’s had. The other is my cousin’s one year old daughter was diagnosed with cancer last week. A good prognosis thus far. Is having her kidney removed this week & looking at a year od chemo. Her name is Mary Hazel. Her parents are Russell & Erin. Pray for their salvation. Thank you! & so cool you are from Greenville! KNEW I liked you! :)

    • Prayers going up for you tonight Tracy! Hang in there sister!!

  15. Oh my goodness! I did not know the first “Don’t” you mentioned. This was very helpful to me– as is the study. Thank you. :)

  16. Great Job Melissa!! You really know how to speak in a great demeanor.
    Love you girls! Smooches :)

  17. Rosa Perez says:

    Hi everyone,

    I haven’t in a while, but I can’t believe we are already coming to the end of week 5. It’s unbelievable how fast we have been doing this and how far everyone has come. I am glad that I am doing this study and it has blessed me tremendously. I hope everyone has a beautiful holiday weekend!


  18. Thank you for the vlog and for the do’s and dont’s — good information to have especially with being new to an online bible study!! I never knew about the first rule either…great to know!

    And thank you Melissa bc of this bible study and trusting I did start my own blog at the start of this and I was so nervous to share it but now I am having fun with it and it’s for me — I am not worrying about what other people think about it!!! That is like HUGE for me :)

  19. Hi Melissa and HJ Ladies!
    Melissa, as always, thank you for your blog today. I just wanted to share with you all something I’ve been doing that I think we be helpful, especially once this study is over. I have been writing down verses that I come across that speak to me individually on index cards. then in the top corner I put them in a category: Faith/Trust, God’s Promises, Peace, God’s commands, etc. that way when I feel I need to read or meditate on a certain issue I can quickly find God’s Word to help me. I also find that Jesus Calling is wonderful devotional to start your day with.
    Take care and many blessing

    • Love it!!!

    • Tracy Hays says:

      Erin, I have done this for a while. I have several little “notebooks” of index cards & they are a treasure to me. Hey, just realized they are a “treasure from darkness”! They are a great way to keep verses close at hand & have carried mine when I’ve had surgeries or other times when I needed comfort. Also great when you need to find that “perfect” verse for a friend.

  20. Veronica,
    Your blog is beautiful!!!! Love what you’ve done there…what you share, your graphics, your expression…I LOVE THIS!!! I love what God does when we begin trusting Him and using our experiences to grow, learn, share, and change ourselves and others. <3

  21. Melissa,

    I haven’t commented on the study and haven’t read through any of the comments in a while because it was getting to be a little too overwhelming. I loved your suggestion that people should start their own blogs, it is a great way to express thoughts and feelings and to connect with other people who are in similar situations.

    Thank you for doing this study, a lot of hard things going on and this study is reminding me that God is good, and will work this all out for the good.

    Blessings to you Melissa.

  22. I wanted to let everyone know that my Biopsy results came back as NOT cancerous. Thank You God! I appreciated all of your prayers! I hope everyone’s having a good day & are still continuing to move forward along their journey. I leaned on God big today. Especially that hour & 20 minute wait until I finally saw the Dr. I even made myself a scripture box this morning, personalized all 100 of those scriptures & pulled one out at random before I left for the Dr. this afternoon. Trusting God feels good! I’m getting there & I’m liking it.

    • Tricia…..I love your post!!! The non cancer is great news but what I really love it your dependence on God just grew so much by this “scare” you went through but instead of running you decided to trust God and to lean on HIm in a huge way :) So proud of you, so thankful to God for you!!!!

  23. Melissa,
    Since I work full-time I usually don’t read your blog until after dinner. I just wanted to say two things about the video. Thank you and AMEN!!
    Love ya,

  24. I started a disscussion on the FB page ~ I need help!!!! How do you find the blessings in a child that is argumentative for the sake of being argumentative!!! He knows what buttons to push and he is pushing them on a daily basis!!!! I am not sure how much more of this I can take — 22 years of constant strife, arguments, screaming and yelling are more than enough!!!

  25. Angie Woodward says:

    Great vlog today, I enjoy getting on here whenever time allows but haven’t had much free time lately. I appreciate all you have done for the bible study and look forward to trying to get caught up on it this weekend. Love reading your blogs daily!! Angie Woodward

  26. Suzanne says:

    Thanks for sharing Melissa!!! This is great. If you ladies are thinking about starting a blog, I would also recommend WordPress. 😉

    God is good, but I’m facing some crazy personal trials right now. I could use extra prayer if you feel so led. I’m confident that He won’t allow anything that isn’t meant for His glory and purposes in and through my life! Be blessed everyone, and know that God has a plan for you and whatever trials you face!!!

    “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” -Romans 8:28

  27. Kristina says:

    Wendy, Your book is really helping me. It is a slow process for me. I am glad you said it took you a long time because everyone around seems to think I should be over it right now. I realize it is all in God’s timing.

    I have two Daughters in the second and third years of college. What I can tell you is that its hard when they go away but when you see what they are becoming, all of the sadness will go away. They turn into really amazing and responsible people and you will be really proud of your Daughter. It is a wonderful transformation from a girl to a responsible young woman.

  28. Love the vlog<3

  29. Janey Bowman says:

    A little behind on emails/blogs, etc. Great comments and so needed. THANKS! Hope you are enjoying your vacation.


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