Oct 21

Confident Heart Vlog~Week 5

***If you cannot see the videos in the post below, click the title, click here.

A Message from me to you :)

Now, just silliness to get your weekend off to a fun start…courtesy of Hayley Grace!

Congrats! Yanna Westmoreland, email me your address because you have a year’s subscription to the P31 Woman coming your way courtesy of Heather Bleier!

And finally, I want to shout out THANK YOU to Heather Bleier and Stephanie Clayton for the marvelous job they did leading the study and posting amazing messages this week. Didn’t they do a fabulous job??? I mean haven’t you just loved the study this week? Girls, I love you so much and appreciate all you do for all of us!

Confident Ladies (that’s you!), I pray you have a wonderful weekend! Make the most of it and live in the Light!

Love you <3



  1. Great vlogs Melissa and Hayley Grace! Melissa, I’m so right there with you regarding being comfortable in the darkness, and how sometimes coming into the light can be rather painful. You did a wonderful job putting to words what I have felt for so long, not only in this vlog, but in your devotionals, writings and posts! Keep up the God work sister! I very much appreciate you and all that you do for our group! So proud to be a part of this ministry!

    And Hayley Grace….I suddenly have the craving for some Fiji water!! 😉 Y’all are too cute!! Have an incredibly blessed day in the Lord!! ((HUGS)) and Love! <3

  2. Lisa Kramp says:

    oh Melissa~ You summed up just how I have been feeling lately. I don’t feel like I have been hiding in the dark lately, as much as, somewhere in between. Resisting satan but not putting my whole heart in HIM either. Its like a nagging fly buzzing around my head … If I could just swat it one good time..I would feel better. LOL Thank you so much for your love and dedication to us all! You ROCK mama!!

    Haley Grace~ I had never had FIGI water until last weekend and I must agree….IT IS the finest artesian water!

  3. Yes, Stephanie and Heather did a fabulous job. I’m glad you got to have a break Melissa so you can marinate in all this awesome study has to offer.

    Excellent vlog. Reminds me of the song “In the Light” by DC Talk. Love that song. And you look gorgeous, thanks for dressing up for us and encouraging us. :)

    And now, I must go find some Fiji water. 😉

  4. Thank you fonr this study and all you put into it. I am beginning to see that I have been taking life tnoo seriously, and am trying to “light”en up, it is just a bit difficult with so many things going wrong. God did send a ray of sunshine today with the birth of my 5th grandchild, Blake. Praise God for a healthy delivery after over 40 hrs of labor. Both mom and baby are doing well. Love and prayers to you and the entire team at Proverbs 31 Ministries!

  5. Thank you fonr this study and all you put into it. I am beginning to see that I have been taking life tnoo seriously, and am trying to “light”en up, it is just a bit difficult with so many things going wrong. God did send a ray of sunshine today with the birth of my 5th grandchild, Blake. Praise God for a healthy delivery after over 40 hrs of labor. Both mom and baby are doing well. Love and prayers to you and the entire team at Proverbs 31 Ministries!

  6. Wow! Thank you for your words even from the carpool lane too funny! It’s nice to see that we r not the only ones with those feelings sometimes. Thanks so much for sharing your strength.
    Love u!!

  7. Michele Caséca says:

    Steph and Heather,

    You girls rock! I just loved your posts this week! Heather, I’ve apologized to you already, but again, sorry for addressing yesterday’s comment to Melissa. I REALLY didn’t know you wrote yesterday’s post, until you told us via Twitter. You both are amazing!


    You always make me laugh! I can’t get enought of your vlogs! It’s a great way to start our weekend! And you look absolutely gorgeous and elegant! Nice job! I love dressing up when I’m feeling blue! It makes me feel a little less blue, a little more pink! :)

    Hayley Grace,

    Your mamma is right… you ARE a princess! You are B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L, funny and you should be in publicity business. You could totaly sell FIJI water! I would buy one, only because of your announcement!

    Love you all! Have a wonderful weekend!
    God bless you,


  8. You wonder if you make any sense and I’d have to say yes because I’ve had those exact thoughts. This is my second time through the book and again I’ve been challenged by how I stay where I’m comfortable, even if it’s in the dark. After my initial reading I was struck by how often I really found myself in a place of doubt, but now the struggle is I realize it, but am tempted to do what I’ve always done. Though that’s not good, sometimes it’s easier and I hate to say it, at times that is still the choice I make.

    As we near the middle of the book I’m reminded too of how it was about at this point I wasn’t sure I’d finish the book last spring, but thankfully God spurred me on, so ladies I’d like to encourage you to do the same – what God does and says will be worth it!!! Pressing on with you, Jill

    • And Hayley Grace my little ladies enjoy your videos!! Thanks for sharing!! Perhaps you should be leading a study for the daughters of your mom’s friends!!! Joy and Jaylyn would love to join you!!

  9. Ladies, what an awesome week it has been! Chapter 5 has been such a blessing — thank you Renee for letting God speak through you. Thank you Stephanie and Heather for taking over the writing this week — your efforts blessed us all, and thankfully Melissa (we do not want to see you sizzling from burn-out, Sister!). As I was driving this morning, the DJ on Shine FM, my radio station, was talking about being in a completely dark room and then lighting just one candle…and how that small light could change an entire room. I thought of the blog post this week about the same subject, and just knew that God was underscoring His message. Awesome! This study is transforming my life, and my relationship with the Lord and I am eternally grateful to be on this amazing journey with all of you!

  10. Fiji is going to be contacting you both to do a commercial for them!! :) “Nothing but the BEST Artesian Water for MY family!!” :) Love It!!!! Haley Grace, you are a DOLL!!!!! Just like your mama!! :)

    Have a BLESSED Weekend, both of you!!

  11. Tonya McCoy says:

    melissa, your vlogs are so uplifting! Thank you so much for taking the time to speak to us. I really like what you had to say about the light & the reference of having the blues is when we are walking in the darkness. Too often Ifind myself in that darkness & really don’t like it at all.I am so glad to know I do not have to remain in that darkness.

  12. Thank you so much for your course. For a while now I have been thinking about joining a church. But I’ve always been shy and I didn’t know anyone. Walking into a room full of strangers wasn’t my thing. But through our study I finally found the confidence and went to a church service.

  13. It is Saturday morning and oh how much I needed this message this morning!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! You know, I found myself thinking the same exact thoughts this week . . . Sometimes I prefer darkness as well. Part of me was thinking “why are you even doing this study– there is nothing here for you Lori, you are comfortable where you are” –I KNOW that was not my loving God speaking to my heart and mind, but rather the deceiver, who preys on women like me, who get “comfortable” hiding in the darkness. Hiding my flaws, my mistakes, my insecurites. . . and the list goes on and on. It’s like no one expects much of you when you are in the darkness either, and sometimes that feels comfortable as well . . . no expectations. I kind of see it like my house when the sunlight shines in and (although you thought your house was at least presentable), the sunlight draws attention to the dust and cobwebs that have settled in while the room was in darkness. You know what I’m talking about girls, when you sit and see the little floaties of dust in the rays of sunlight!?!? I hope I’m not alone here, or I might be in the wrong study after all!?!? :) This week has been a real eye opener for me because I hadn’t even realized I was settling into the darkness. . . it just felt that comfortable, that right. It’s time for me, Lori Moore, to step out of the darkness and into the full LIGHT of JESUS and let him use me (flaws and all) to make a difference to others who might be struggling just like me. After all, if you never see the dust, you might just never clean it up. How sad to think that I could miss out on God opportunities just by being comfortable. . . time to step out of that comfort zone and into the LIGHT of JESUS!!!!

    • AMEN ! what an encouagement ! thank you for sharing your thoughts ,I struggle with the same as you.pray that I look to jesus for strength to walk out of the comfy places in my heart, mind and life,and get with moving forward.I too have missed out because of being to comfortable ! my biggest fears are I’m not worthy im not good enough its to scary to expose who I am .. but I know if it were for melissa ‘s on line bible study and P31 I dont think I see what God is doing in my life ! hugs

  14. Oh, Melissa… thank you again for your honesty. I can grow comfortable in the dark, too. In fact, I find myself when I am upset with something, instead of digging into God’s Word like I know I should, retreating into my own thoughts. You hit the nail on the head this week, girlfriend!
    And could Hayley Grace be any cuter… I think not! Have a wonderful weekend. Prayers for you!

  15. Misty Davenport says:

    Hi Melissa! When will you announce what your next bible study will be? Do you think you’ll be doing Made to Crave again?

  16. Hi Melissa,
    Thank you for your vlog. You are very right… things can get so complicated and so hard in life. Sometimes staying comfortable and not having to face the light is easier. Life can be a pressure cooker and of course the enemy of our soul would love to sift us as wheat.

    We are praying for you. And your upbeat attitude is inspiring!
    May you have that peace that passes all understanding!

  17. Grace Glory says:

    Hi Melissa:

    Thanks for such a great vlog, your open heart, willingness to share, and most importantly, for being one of the sistas. :) Like many women here, I too felt the power of your message speaking directly to my very core. I very much feel more comfortable in the dark. My feeling is that if it is in the “light,” I will become my reality and I will have to face the truth. Often times, hiding and not addressing issues feels right and the most comfortable. But, I know that this is the enemy trying to keep me down, and keep me from running straight into the waiting, loving arms of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He who will not judge me, He who will love me unconditionally, He who is my rock and my fortress. There I will find the light I so desperately seek.

    God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. 1 John 1:5

  18. This Bible study has helped me immensely. It came just at the right time. I was widowed eight years ago, but have spent my time raising my children. This year I faced the empty nest alone. I tried filling the emptiness with a man, the first man I had dated in eight years. It turned out horribly. Then, I read in ‘A Confident Heart’ that until God is enough, nothing else will be. I am at a better place than I have been in years. Thank you!

  19. yanna westmoreland says:

    I am so excited! I won on my birthday! Thank you Heather and Confident Heart Study. Plus I was so encouraged to visit with Melissa. God is so good. I am looking forward to receiving the magazine and drooling over every page. I can just see myself already with a cup of tea, light turned on, comfy chair, feet up, snuggly blanket and my first Proverbs 31 magazine. :)

  20. melissa that was so encouraging ! You are such a blessing to me, as I was listening to you talk about being comfortable in the darkness ,boy did that open my eyes up. I immediately strated praying and asking God to forgive me for being comfortable in the darkness .As i was asking God to forgive I started to cry like the flood gates opened wide :) well as I was crying out I had a vision, I saw Jesus ahead of me reaching back for my hand, and I cried harder because He already went before me, I just need to trust Him and place my hand in His .theres fears that trys to stand in the way and I know that the enemy wants me to stay where I feel comfortable ,and that is not a good place for God’s child to be. I love the verse that was on a post on P31 today psalms 139:14 I praise you because, I AM FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE; Your works are wonderful I know them full well …. Hugs

  21. Melissa, I am just now reading this because I have been living in the dark the past 10 days or so, and had gotten behind on my Confident Heart studies. I am coming out of it now, praise the Lord, but why do I let myself get so down like that? I was so depressed that I wasn’t even on speaking terms with God. And yes, it was all about doubt and lack of confidence and thinking I am an awful (you name it, wife, mom, etc.). It scares me to think how easily I slip right back into my self-degredation and sadness. And yes, I am on medication! LOL. Thank you, God, for bringing me out of my darkness, and please help me to fight fight fight next time Satan tries to take me back there. Thank you, Melissa.