Archives for November 2011

Nov 18

Emotional~Security~Wrap

Today I posted this as my Facebook status:

Why did God make me such an emotional person? It can be very frustrating at times. Feelings hurt for stupid reasons, cry at the drop of a hat, feel pain that others are experiencing, and have a hard time detaching emotions from most issues. The plus to being emotional is when something good happens, I get really excited.

Within an hour it had 40 comments from all women who felt the exact same way!  (If interested, you can find it here.)  I was amazed at how quickly so many replied all because they could relate. Truly ladies, I tell you, we are never alone.

Shortly after posting that, I received a note from a FB friend. She gave me permission to share it here. It blessed tremendously. Julie, thank you for allowing me to share this. *thankful tears*

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I just wanted to share this with you too. I just got finished with So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore and in it she talks about how our feelings get hurt. First thing take these verses and claim them for yourself:

Ephesians 2:10- We are Gods Masterpiece. he has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so that we can do the things He planned for us long ago.

Proverbs 31:25- She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

Gods gift to us is security in HIM. Its up to us whether we keep it or give it up.

This is from Beth’s book:

“The next time someone says or does something to you that has the capacity to dent your security think one of these thoughts toward that person:

You can hurt my feelings, but you cannot have my security. I won’t let you. Its mine to keep. You cannot have it.

You can criticize me and even be right about what I did wrong, but you do not get to damage my security Its mine to keep. You cannot have it.

You may have embarrassed me, but I refuse to let it fall on me so heavily that it smothers my security. Its mine to keep you cannot have it.

You may be so intimidating and threatening that I feel I have to hand a lot of things to you, but I refuse to hand over my security. Who you are doesn’t get to dwarf who I am. My security is mine to keep. You can not have it.”

Praying for you sweet sister.

Hugs!
Julie

P.S. sorry its so long :)
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I bet you are blessed by Julie’s note as well.

And finally, I do not have a new Vlog this week, but with the cold weather quickly arriving, I thought you all would benefit from a previous Vlog where you are instructed (and maybe entertained…maybe) on a beautiful way to wear a scarf.

I present to you:  The Wendy Wrap/Rap

And what Friday Vlog would be complete without the bloopers:

Have a great weekend y’all! Love you <3

Melissa
Nov 15

Is God Enough When I’m Not Invited?

To view this week’s assignments for Chapter 9, click here.

 

Recently I called a friend to a friend to catch up and chat. We have been friends for a very long time, but don’t get to see each other very often. I asked “Paula” if she could get together on Thursday evening. She told me that she had plans to go out with her mother that evening but we would plan something soon. Really missing my friend, I decided to call another friend, “Dana,” and make plans. I asked Dana if she’d like to get together Thursday. Her reply, “Oh I’m sorry, I’m going to a dinner party at Paula’s that night. Are you not invited?” ……..Ouch. My heart hurts now.

Those same negative feelings that tend to define me came flooding back. I’m rejected. I’m unwanted. I’m unloved. I’ve been forgotten. Besides the sad woe is me feelings, I also was hurt by the fact that Paula lied to me. Was I not a good enough friend that she felt she could be honest with me?  Dana told me that the party was really small and Paula probably didn’t want to hurt my feelings. I can understand and even appreciate that, but I was still hurt. You know a pity party is the party I’m invited to the most…and I’m always welcome.

I struggled with whether I should approach Paula or not. I had a few good reasons and a few selfish ones too. I wanted to tell her, “Paula, honey, I love you. You don’t have to lie to me. I’m fine to not be invited to your party.” (well, maybe I wasn’t fine, but you know what I mean.) Then there was the selfish side of me that also just wanted her to know that I knew she was having that stupid party and that I knew she lied. I decided to do what all smart people do when trying to decide about such things. I posted it on Twitter and asked opinions. I was blown away by all the responses! Great advice, Bible verses, prayers, love….wow. I knew then what I really needed to do about it. Pray, and somehow find contentment in my heart. So I did.

After spending some time with the Lord, I actually decided for now I wouldn’t do anything. I knew in my heart Paula would NEVER want to hurt me and that she was really trying to protect my sensitive feelings. If the opportunity came up another time, I would possibly approach it, but for now, I was just going to let it be.

End of story for now, right?  Wrong. Paula called me yesterday in tears. She felt so bad for lying to me and evidently the Lord was working in her just like He was working in me. She apologized for lying and explained the dinner party. I completely understood and she understood my feelings of hurt. We ended up laughing at ourselves for acting so insecure in the first place, because we know better. And not only do we know better, but we know the One Who holds our confidence in the first place.

I know this whole story may seem quite trivial in life. There are much bigger trials than not being invited somewhere! However, it’s often the little things that bring us down daily that do the most damage. Eating at our hearts, little by little. All that adds up and our enemy can use it to bring us down. We can’t let our confidence go. We need God’s promises. God and His Word have to be enough in any and all situations…the big and little, the trivial and tragic.

On page 210-213 of A Confident Heart, you will find a devotion I wrote a while back called Is God Enough? Check it out if you get the chance. Then ask yourself the question I keep having to ask myself lately. Is He?

 

***Thank you “Paula” for giving me permission to share our messy story and turn it into a message. I love you girl! Hope you have a fabulous dinner party Thursday night!  :)  <3

Melissa
Nov 14

A Confident Heart~Week 9

This week’s lesson will be a challenge for me.

When Doubt Whispers, “I Can’t Stop Worrying.”

Actually it seems like every week it’s a challenge! This is another amazing lesson and I’m not going to waste words here. Let’s just get to it!

Words of the Week:

Peace

It’s an amazing thing that happens if we will only give our worries to God and allow Him to handle them…peace can be ours.

Trust

It’s hard to worry when you are truly trusting God.

 

Verses of the Week:

(If you can just pick one of the these to memorize, that will be good enough…I don’t want anyone to panic…or worry…lol)

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which will exceed anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7  (NLT)

 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6  (NLT)

 

Suggested Assignments:

You probably have picked up on the pattern we typically follow…

Monday– Read Chapter 9.

Monday– Conference Call #4, “I’ve Blown It” , Special Guest, Author Renee Swope

Tuesday– Read Chapter 9 again, taking notes and highlighting in your book. Use your Bible to look up the verses mentioned in Chapter 9.

Wednesday– Complete Reflection and Discussion Questions #1-4 on p. 179.

Thursday– Complete Reflection and Discussion Questions #5-7 on p. 179.

Friday– Hopefully a Vlog.  To view last week’s vlogs, which were for your entertainment only (I promise there is not one bit of educational or spiritual value in either of these), see below. If you have trouble viewing them, visit my blog directly here.

 

Love you my sweet study friends! I’m praying for you!

I warned you ahead of time. We just got a little crazy…sometimes you just have to! If you are interested in viewing any of our bloopers, I’ll spare you here, but you can visit my you tube page

Melissa