Archives for December 2011

Dec 20

Just For Me

It’s happened twice in one week. I read a passage and automatically thought of someone in my life who I wanted to forward it to because they needed it. Then after prayer, reflection, and real life happenings, I realized they were written just for me.

One is Psalm 20. Maybe you saw my prayer on Facebook or Twitter. I was flipping through the pages of my Bible searching for a Word to pray over my friends. I ended up at Psalm 20, so I posted a short prayer. Later in the day something happened that rocked my world. It involved one of my children…something I couldn’t change. I reflected on other battles raging my way. There are a few. Voids in my life. Deep hurts. Grieving. Sadness. Confusion. Mental exhaustion. Disappointment. You get it. I realized that although Psalm 20 was great to pray for others, God was really sending it to me. The thought came over me so strong that I have chosen it as my 2012 Life Chapter. Usually I have a verse, but this upcoming year, I’ve selected a chapter. I’m going to memorize it. I feel like it’s just for me.

Psalm 20

1 May the LORD answer you when you are in distress;
may the name of the God of Jacob protect you.
2 May he send you help from the sanctuary
and grant you support from Zion.
3 May he remember all your sacrifices
and accept your burnt offerings.
4 May he give you the desire of your heart
and make all your plans succeed.
5 May we shout for joy over your victory
and lift up our banners in the name of our God.

May the LORD grant all your requests.

6 Now this I know:
The LORD gives victory to his anointed.
He answers him from his heavenly sanctuary
with the victorious power of his right hand.
7 Some trust in chariots and some in horses,
but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.
8 They are brought to their knees and fall,
but we rise up and stand firm.
9 LORD, give victory to the king!
Answer us when we call!


Don’t you just love that! We trust in the name of the LORD our God.

This wasn’t the only passage just for me. The other appeared on the blog of one of my favorite people in the world. My good friend, Nicki Koziarz.  Last week she wrote a post titled “Fresh Vision.”  I read it on a day when I was feeling down, rejected, and not good enough. I saw her twitter post about “Fresh Vision.” So glad I clicked the link. It took me to words that spoke to my heart, gave me hope, and provided new vision in my circumstances which I needed. I needed to see that God knows my heart and believes in me and chooses me. I know all this, but I needed the reminder.

I pray you are blessed by Nicki’s words. From the blog of my beautiful amazing friend, Nicki. I know I was. It felt like they were just for me.


Fresh Vision.

The second pick.

That’s how I feel some days.

The fear of never being good enough often hinders me. The realization of being in others shadows paralyzes me. I spend hours in my mind wandering around the circle of insignificance. My heart tries to stay filled up with God’s Truth, but I find a leaky corner…a place where the  hole of  “unworthy” gets larger each day.

Today, I am a woman desperate for God to breathe fresh vision on my soul.

I don’t want the vision someone else has on their life.

I am weary of the shadows that I continually find myself in. Time is short, and I don’t have time to waste in these endless circles.

So, as I find myself in the place of needing a fresh vision for life today,  I’m comforted by these thoughts…

1. The secret place is the vision space.

There is a place that I know Jesus wants to meet us everyday that isn’t about a tweet, facebook status, or blog post. My vision gets lost when it is  found anywhere else but in the presence of God.

We live in a society that is constantly connected. The more connected I get, the more I find myself feeling disconnected from God.

The secret place is somewhere I need to be present and focused.

Wherever that place is, distractions must leave.

2. The vision space is the planning place.

Proverbs 29:18 says; “Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint; but happy is he who keeps the law.”

While I’ve heard of people having dreams while sleeping of the vision God has for their life…this isn’t how God speaks to me most of the time.

Obedience is.

The place where I sit still, ask God, read His word, listen to the nudging on my soul…this is where I hear from God.

Our hearts want so badly to believe that God has great plans for us. If we continually fight or disregard the plans, then we will continually fail to walk towards the vision.

While it may be true to this world that Nicki Koziarz is a second pick player, I have to know and believe that God does not see me this way.

I know that in a crowd of 10,000, He sees this woman, desperate for His vision.

He sees us. He knows our hearts. He knows the gifts He’s given us. He believes in us like no one else.

And He chooses you…

God, I need a fresh vision from you today. I need you to breathe on my life like never before. The only thing I ask that you make greater in my life, is your presence. Give those of us desperate for a fresh vision an undeniable encounter with you today…



Don’t you love how when you are looking and have your spiritual eyes open, God provides just what you need? I know it’s not always that easy, but this week, I was extremely blessed by words when I needed them. Since words are my love language (they can build me way up or tear me way down), these 2 passages, one provided by God and one provided by a friend, were exactly what I needed. Just for me.

Love You Ladies. I pray the words today were meant…Just For You.


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Dec 19

Thank You Confident Heart

To everyone who participated in A Confident Heart Online Bible Study~

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart! This study was the most challenging, yet rewarding, study of the year. I am so thankful for the growth and movements of God throughout the past 12 weeks. I don’t know about you, but I was stretched beyond what I thought I could handle at times. Of course that’s when I’m reminded, my life’s circumstances aren’t for me to handle~I need God. We need God. Without Him….well I’ll just say it straight. Without Him I can’t make it. And I (we) don’t have to.

Please grasp the truths on A Confident Heart. Believe them and continue to put them into the application of  your life. Renee Swope didn’t write a book full of words. She wrote a book full of truths and God’s Promises, but they remain words if you leave them in the book. Take them sisters. We need them.

Thank you to my awesome Bible study team, all 8000+ members of this study, my conference call guests, and especially Renee Swope. It was an honor to have so much participation from all of you. I love you and I have a feeling A Confident Heart will be repeated here sometime in the future. It’s just one of those books.

If you ever want to access our study notes from A Confident Heart, just look in the right column of this blog. Scroll down until you see “Categories.” Under that click “A Confident Heart.” All posts and lessons from this study are there.

Moving forward, sign ups for our next study, Made to Crave, by Lysa TerKeurst begin today. You can sign up in the space provided in the right column. The study begins January 16th and more information will be posted in the Online Bible Studies Info page later today.

Love and blessings to each of you. I love that I can call you friend and I hope you feel the same about me!

Dec 8

I Have Nothing to Give

It was time for the annual Proverbs 31 Ministries Christmas party.  As we do each year, everyone brings something yummy to share and a gift. We play that crazy game where you draw numbers. Whoever gets #1 gets to pick the first gift then everyone after gets to steal a gift that’s already been opened or select a new one. Two years ago, I didn’t want to go to this party. I love the party and being with my P31 sisters, but money was tight and I had nothing to give.  I decided I wouldn’t go.

I was upset about missing the party, but too proud to tell everyone why I wasn’t going. Then in the quiet of my heart, I heard a whisper…”Give Me at the party.”  “Huh?  God is that You? All of these ladies already have You, what do You mean.?  “Give Me to someone at the party. From your heart to theirs.”

I had a Willow Tree Angel ornament who was bowed in prayer. Yes she was used, but as I looked at her I felt like I was supposed to give her away.  Maybe that’s what God meant. So, I began wrapping her up.

“That’s not what I meant.”  “Huh? Is that You again? Could You be a little more clear?” And He was. These are the words I wrote on the card that accompanied that angel:

“Last night as I was wrapping your gift, God put an idea in my heart and I wholeheartedly agreed with Him. If you are the recipient of this gift, not only are you holding a new ornament, but also a promise from me. It will be my privilege and honor to pray for you every day in the coming year. On your good days and bad days, you can rest assured that you are being prayed for by name by me. I love you. Merry Christmas. Love, Melissa”


If you are feeling like you have nothing to give this Christmas, think again. You do.

You can read more about this story and how the gift blessed the recipient, my sweet amazing friend Holly Good, in today’s Proverbs 31 Daily Devotion.

Sweet Blessing Beautiful Friends!