Archives for December 2011

Dec 7


I’m beyond sad.

I’m beyond lost.

I’m beyond hurt.

I’m beyond confused.

I’m beyond scared.

I’m beyond insecure.

I’m beyond an aching heart.

I’m beyond stressed.

I’m beyond overworked.

I’m beyond tired…physically, emotionally, and mentally.

How do I know? Because I feel it and it happened.

I could go on and on. And then I would be beyond depressed. What good would I be then? Plus it’s Christmas! ‘Tis the season to by jolly, right?

When I’m feeling beyond mixed up like this, I realize that I have to get my mind out of the gutter and on God’s Promises, like Chapter 12 in A Confident Heart so well demonstrates.

I have to be intentional on focusing on some different “beyond” statements or I will be in a pit fast. I know this from experience. Even if the “beyond” statements I’m thinking above are true, there are others that are also true.

I am beyond blessed~ From the fullness of his grace we have all received one blessing after another. John 1:16

I am beyond strong~“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

I am beyond secure~ Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

I am beyond safe~ Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me. Psalm 138:7

I am beyond hopeful~For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

I am beyond loved~But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. Psalm 13:5

I am beyond valued~ For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

I am beyond important~ See how great a love the Father has bestowed upon us, that we should be called children of God.   1 John 3:1a

I am beyond needed~ And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another.  Hebrews 10:24-25a

I am beyond forgiven~ Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” Luke 7:48

I am beyond found~ “Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.'” Luke 15:4-6

I am beyond healed~ But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:5

I am beyond complete~ So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. Colossians 2:10

How do I know? Jesus tells me so. It’s right there in the Bible, God’s Word. I can’t trust my feelings. They change like the wind. Up one moment and easily shot down the next. His Word overrides my feelings everyday and I need to believe it and live like it.

I began this post quite discouraged, I was sharing from my heart. After searching God’s Word for His view of me, I am ending it quite encouraged. Hope you feel the same!


Love you Sweet Friends…to infinity and BEYOND,




***Winner of our next online study book, Made to Crave is Lori!   You have 48 hours to claim your prize by emailing .  I’ll need your mailing address.
In case there is a mix up over which Lori, here is the comment you left:
Lori December 6, 2011 at 4:48 pm [edit]
I actually have more than one “speaking” to me this week. However, the main one where the rest stem from is….
When I say: I feel defeated.
God Says: You are a conqueror.
Powerful Promise: In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)
Dec 6

Dear Jesus, I Need You

Do you ever feel like you are just exhausted from trying to help, please, encourage, even love on others? You want to please those you love and especially please God…and yet your efforts don’t seem to work out how you intended?  Here’s what I do when this happens and it’s a very mature response. I withdraw and cry.  There I said it.  And sometimes I’ll mope a few days. Some confident heart I have huh?

Although I didn’t write the prayer below, I sure feel like I could have. I received it in my email from the 30 Day Jesus Calling Christmas Devotional.



Dearest Jesus, You know I want to do so much for You and for those I love. But things just keep going wrong, and I cannot seem to stem the tide of failure. I am clumsy and slow. My efforts seem to cause damage rather than relieve pain. The words I say in comfort come out flat, lacking consolation. The service I render feels inadequate–a single drop of rain in a desert of need. What I lack in skill, I try to make up for in effort, in the hopes that expending twice as much time and energy will bring many more results. Yet the needs remain and no one is satisfied. It is frustrating to feel so ineffective when my greatest desire is to help others.

When will I see something positive for my efforts, Lord? You know my heart. You know my desire to serve You. And You know how hard it is to see things falling apart around me. I long for my life to be marked by successes rather than by failures.

No Kidding I Could Have Written That Today:

But I didn’t. So that must mean I’m not alone.

Jesus’ Response (from the email Christmas devo):


When things seem to be going all wrong, stop and affirm your trust in Me. Calmly bring these matters to Me, and leave them in My capable hands. Then, simply do the next thing. Stay in touch with Me through thankful, trusting prayers, resting in My sovereign control. Rejoice in Me–exult in the God of your salvation! As you trust in Me, I make your feet like the feet of a deer. I enable you to walk and make progress upon your high places of trouble, suffering, or responsibility.

My Response:

Dear Jesus, I need You.

That is all. I need You.

A Confident Heart:

Isn’t this exactly what we’ve been facing during this entire study? And here we are at the end, our current chapter titled, The Woman I Want to Be. We know what we believe. We know what to do.  Placing our “things” no matter what they are into God’s capable hands. Practicing letting go. Repeating God’s Word. And allowing ourselves the ok to mess up, fail, or fall short. Remembering that we do our best for an Audience of One and to stay in touch with Him. Don’t dwell on us…wah wah wah…but dwell on Him and His Promises.  “Dear Jesus, we need You.”

P. 224

When I say: I just want to quit.

God Says: Be strong and do the work.

Powerful Promise: Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don’t be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord God, my God is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. (1 Chron. 28:20 NLT)

P. 222

When I say: I can’t do it.

God Says: Rely on My strength and you can do all that I’ve called you to do.

Powerful Promise: I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me. (Phil. 4:13 AMP)


Chapter 12 is full of “I say, God says…”  Check it out and let me know which one is speaking to you today.  I’m giving away Made to Crave, our next Bible study. If you share in the comment section, you just might win it! Winner will be selected by Wednesday noon EST.


With Love and Confidence,

Melissa <3

Dec 5

Inhale…Exhale~A Confident Heart~Week 11

Inhale peace and confidence…exhale fear and doubt.

Samantha, my friend here in the office at Proverbs often asks me why I sigh so loudly. So does my husband, Jeff. Both of them usually ask, “What’s wrong?” Funny, I rarely realize that I do it. It’s not a sigh of dread or gloom, it’s more an exhale of the poison inside. The fear. The doubt. The need to be loved. The insecurity. A release and surrender.

All day I’m inhaling poison. A way too busy day. A criticism. A hurt child. A broken down car that I can’t afford to fix. A mess up that’s my fault. Marriage conflicts. Someone I love who is fighting for their life….yea, that one was a doozy. When I inhale deep and exhale hard, it is cleansing for me. And as I do it, I think, inhale Jesus, exhale junk.

The past 2 weeks, I was probably about the scaredest (is that a word…probably not) I’ve been since my mom died. Danielle, who I love like a daughter, spent 10 days in the hospital, literally fighting for her life. She has a heart condition and this isn’t the first time she’s had a hospital stay due to that. But it was the first I’ve been a part of. Watching someone you love so much go on and off the vent and hearing the words “Code Blue” don’t exactly fill you with peace and comfort.

Danielle and I met 7 months ago. We were introduced by Lysa TerKeurst. It wasn’t long at all before we were very good friends. I talked to her everyday, prayed for her, tried to fill her with the encouragement and love that a broken person is in need of. Of course I couldn’t do it all, and Jesus stepped in. It was the highlight of my year when she accepted Christ on June 10th. I knew then that no matter what happened to her, she would indeed be ok. The following day, I received a note from her, one that blessed me and I will treasure for the rest of my life. Much of it is personal, but here’s the big picture.

She thanked me for being there NMW (no matter what) and for being Ohana to her. (Ohana is from the movie Lilo and Stitch. It means “family” and family means no one is forgotten or left behind.) She said I believed in her and that gave her the courage to fight. And then she said something I will never forget. “You may never change the whole entire world (you might), but I want you to know that you changed MY whole entire world!”


Seriously y’all, I didn’t do that much. I just loved her like I knew Jesus wanted me to. It wasn’t even hard.  And that’s what I want to stress to you here. We’ve been studying how to have a confident heart. And that through the power of God’s Word, our doubts can be dismissed. We take that in for ourselves. Think about how Renee Swope has changed your life. She is one person who wrote a book that you read. You have the same ability and opportunity to do that for someone else. Look for those opportunities.

Never did I expect to have the amazing pleasure of playing a part in changing someone’s world, yet God gave Danielle and I a divine appointment. That was then. And today, I can honestly say to her, “Danielle, You may never change the whole entire world (you might), but I want you to know that you changed MY whole entire world!” I feel like I was way more blessed by her than she could be by me.

As we go through our last week of A Confident Heart, I want you to focus on how the Lord is working in your life to instill confidence and peace. As a challenge, I also want you to look for ways to give what you’ve taken in to someone else. It doesn’t take much, yet it can make a big difference. For some of you it may be by giving to someone that you see regularly. For others it may be an encouraging word on Facebook or in the comment section of this blog. It feels good to focus on someone besides ourselves occasionally :)

I feel like through the course of this study, you have learned how to read and study on your own. This is your chance to share with me and the rest of us.

If you had to select a word of the week, what would it be?

If you had to select a memory verse of the week, what would it be?

Read Chapter 11. Admittedly I’m partial to this chapter because my son, Dylan, and I are in it.

Read Chapter 12.  It’s not really a chapter, it’s a powerful tool and resource that you will want to refer back to over and over again.

Please comment today. I’ve missed y’all SO MUCH!!! I haven’t been on email or the blog in a while because I was with Danielle in the hospital. I really missed my Bible study gals! And a huge thank you to Stephanie Clayton and all who pitched in to keep this study going. And a super huge thank you to all of you who have been praying for sweet Danielle. I’m happy to report that she came home on Saturday and is doing much better.

Have a super day y’all!  I’ll be checking in all during the week. And we may even have a few give aways…I feel like sharing the love this week!