Mar 8

My Hope … My Future … My GOD …

Donna Bostick, a friend and Online Bible Studies team member, has good reason to be filled with fear…her life presented her with circumstances where fear would be the natural reaction, yet she never quit living. Please welcome my brave friend today and thank God with me for her willingness to share the messy places of her life with us. You will be both moved and blessed by her story.  Thank you Donna for your courage and strength in sharing your story.  It is an honor to have you guest post on my blog today.

My Hope … My Future … My GOD …

Donna Bostick

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV),

FEAR. We’ve all experienced, felt, and seen it. Some even live with it every day.

How do we define fear?

What is fear to the five-year-old whose daddy flings a plate of hot spaghetti through the air, followed by a chair aimed at the TV? Will her mom be the next thing he hits; or will it be the girl?

What is fear to the little one in the police cruiser with her younger sister, not sure what she’s done wrong, only to find out her daddy broke the law by not following the custody ruling.

Or to the eight-year-old who hears the heavy footsteps of the neighbor getting closer to the bedroom door. She lies silently, hoping the evil man will pass the door. Sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn’t.

Or to the forty-year-old, alone in the doctor’s office. The doctor gently says, “I believe it’s cancer. We’ll take it one day, and one test, at a time; we’ll pray you through this.”

Surgery removes the lump near her vocal cords; it’s not cancerous. But the roller coaster dips two days later: it is cancer—the fastest growing kind. Another surgery is needed ASAP. Three days after this, the diagnosis changes again. After a second surgery six weeks later, she’s told they got it all. Does she believe them this time?

What is fear to the fifty-year-old driving with Melissa Taylor when she hears, “Donna, you should be speaking and writing. You have lots to offer. I want to see you doing these things.”

Those were, and some still are, my fears.

For years my fears ruled my life and my emotions.   I allowed fear to become anger; the kind of anger that I would bottle up and unleash on the most unlikely candidate at the most inopportune times.  At times I would let my fear hold me captive to living in the shadows, hiding and sulking from my family and friends.  Sometimes I would even profess hate at either the circumstances or at the people involved and yes, even at God.   And other times I questioned why God would allow all of this to happen.

I don’t have all the answers.  But I realized one day that I had a choice.  I can let my fears rule over my heart, mind and soul, or I can allow God to heal me with His grace and truth, and give me hope to share with others.  Some days I make the right choices and some days I don’t.

Over time I’ve discovered I don’t have to let my fears define me.  2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” God keeps the promises His Word is filled with. He’s given us a spirit of power and a sound mind. Although some will probably debate if I have a sound mind {and I would probably lose!}.

Despite my fears, God has shown me He has plans to prosper and not harm me, plans to give me hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). He’s revealed Himself to be my Healer (Exodus 15:26); my Prince of Peace (Judges 6:24); my Protector, Defender and Abba Father who loves me no matter what (Psalm 68:5-6). God is my Daddy whose lap I can crawl into any time I become fearful.

Let’s begin to let go of our fears and take hold of these promises in His Word. We’re His daughters, protected and defended by His peace. Fears may have shaped our past, but they don’t have to define our future.

God, I praise You that You’re my Future and Hope, and that You love me no matter what. Thank You that I can run to You and crawl in Your lap when fear overtakes me. Thanks for being a Promise Keeper, and the Author and Perfecter of my faith. Help me seek You with my entire being and remember Your faithfulness. I love and thank You for the life You’ve given me in You. Cause me to honor and glorify You with my life, actions, speech and heart. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

 

Can you relate to Donna’s story?  Do your fears define you or have they refined you?  Leave Donna a comment today  and you will be entered to *win one of three Untroubled Heart give aways!  An Untroubled Heart Online Bible Study begins March 25th right here on this blog. Sign up in the right column of this blog if you are interested in joining!

*Winners announced Sunday

 

 

Melissa

Comments

  1. LaToshia Jordan says:

    I have allowed fear to rule more times than I care to admit, but my move to Raleigh ,NC has helped me overcome fears and totally have faith in Gods provision, protection, and love for me. I have submit to the Holy Spirit leading daily to have faith and not fear.

    • LaToshia, so thankful that God is helping you overcome your fears. And praising Him alongside of you for His provision, protection and love! And I have to do the daily submitting to the Holy Spirit too!

  2. Thank you for this blog posting. For me the fear that I live with everyday is: Will I be the one to get breast cancer. My mother and grandmother are both survivors. Both caught it in time. My fear is that I won’t because I have those naturally lumpy breasts. I have an amazing marriage which I am so thankful for. God truly has done a great work in our lives! However, growing up with my dad cheating on my mother (whom is amazing in my eyes), seeing friends’ marriages ruined by affairs (him cheating) does cause me to fear that someday it could be me. I don’t tremble in fear everyday over these things, but it’s like I can’t help thinking about them from time to time.

    • Tina, praying that God will deliver you from those fears that creep in. Praying that you will remember His faithfulness to you and your husband when they do creep in. Praying that you won’t let the pasts of others define you or your fear. Also praying for his protection for you from breast cancer. Praying that you will meditate on His promises verses that what ifs. Praying that He will remove those thoughts and replace them with his promises.

  3. Donna, Thank you so much – I’ve got tears in my eyes. I don’t know when or how it started but I have struggled with fear all my life in one form or another. Fear of not being special, Fear of being a cluts, fear of not measuring up, fear of being left. fear of people finding out I don’t know what I’m doing. (even though I’ve had my job for over 11 years) Fear new situations.(nervous tummy) Fear of confrontation.
    I’m much better, but it is a battle sometimes more than others.
    Again thanks for sharing!

    • Lynn, I am right there with you. I have my every day struggles and I just try to remember His faithfulness and how He has taken my fears one at time away and replaces them with His promises and His love. Not a day goes by, that I don’t have take fear to Him and surrender it to Him…there are some days where I pick the fear back up …. and some days where I actually leave it at is feet. I am just thankful that those “take me backs” are getting fewer and far between. Praying for you.

  4. Donna: Thank you for posting this and reminding us all that we are not alone in our fears. That there are others out there who deal with the same or similar things as us every day. For the past year, I have been on a roller coaster journey with MAJOR anxiety. The most frustrating part of that was that it seemed to come on out of the blue, one day I was fine, the next I had anxiety so badly I couldn’t function properly. I know God didn’t give me anxiety, but I know He was there with me through it all…though some days I didn’t even realize that. Through my journey I’ve become so much closer to God and have an amazing relationship with him. If I hadn’t admitted to my husband that I was having issues and ended up at a Dr’s office and eventually at a Christian Counselor’s office I might still be in a dark place. My counselor/pastor helped me to see that there was no way I could battle anxiety alone and win. I had to truly and entirely give it to God. Trouble was, that was HARD!!! Some days I would give it to him, then I would inevitably take some back…give, take, give, take. That was my pattern for months. Through prayer I finally realized that I had to stop taking it back, I can’t handle it, I can’t fix it, it’s not mine and my strength would NEVER be able to conquer my fears. Some days I have to let God handle more for me than other days. But now I’m okay with that. Having a controlling personality I really thought I could “fix” myself…ha ha ha. That was a joke, I’m slowly learning that I am NOT the one in charge, I can’t “fix” anything on my own but mostly I’m never alone.

    • It is in His strength that we can face and conqueor our fears. So thankful that you He is working on you and helping you face yours. I always have to remember that its a journey…a collection of steps moving forward and even some days my steps move backwards…so I try to remember his faithfulness towards me so that the backwards steps are fewer and fewer in between. Praising Him for what He is teaching you.

  5. `Sherry Chinn says:

    Thank you for sharing your story Donna. Fear is not a good thing. I struggle with it. Thank you for reminding us of God’s promises. Blessings to you.

    • Thanking God for providing the reminders of His promises. I need reminding several times a day! Praying for you as you face and overcome your fears. Keep your eyes focused on Him!

  6. Wow! Thank you Donna for reminding me I’m not the only one stressing (fearing). I’ve been quite fearful these past months. Maybe menopause has something to do with it, maybe not. And Dawn, thank you for your thoughts. So much like my own, giving it to God and taking it back, giving it, and taking back. There was a point in that particular worry where I realized that I can’t take it back because I can’t do anything about it. There’s only one who CAN do something about it….Jesus. And yes, it IS so HARD! I am slowly learning about giving it all to Him.

    • Nancy, it is hard…but you know …God never told us that it wouldn’t be … He has just always told us that He would be there for us! I love that thought. I must always remember that He is my fixer … I can’t even fix myself! And thanking Him that it is not my responsibility to fix myself …it’s my responsibility to pray and ask Him to keep up the perfecting of my faith. He has my best interests at heart and I must always believe and trust that about Him.

  7. Thank you for sharing this! I am so excited to begin this new book study. I have also been dealing with a lot of fear…fear of anxiety, fear of the future, fear in my career, finances, etc. etc. I know that God has a plan for me and there has been a reason for all of this including the fact that I need to strengthen my relationship with him! If this isnt a sign that he is providing means for me to be victorious, then I don’t know what is! God bless!

    • Dora, thanks for sharing and you are so right — He wants us to be depending on Him for everything! I am so thankful that it is his job and not mine! I just know he does so much better at it than I do. And yep, VICTORY is obtainable … progress not perfection …. one step at a time towards Him.

  8. Thanks for sharing this with us , Donna. It’s definitely something I needed to hear today. I’m definitely no stranger to fear, especially since lately I’ve been struggling with a lot of unnecessary fears & it was starting to become crippling. It was mostly because the enemy started filling my mind with a bunch of lies that weren’t true & I was trying to find my security & identity in how others value me instead of how my Daddy in Heaven values me. I’m slowly learning how to rely on & trust in Him. :)

    • Tiffany, so thankful to be in God’s refining process with you! It is hard, but o so worth it not to have those fears weighing me down. I so love the freedom that He gives us when we make those right choices. Lay em at His feet and let Him carry the load for you. And take those thoughts that are not of Him and throw em in the trash can! Getting excited to see what God is going to teach us through Micca.

  9. Fear … At one point in my life I asked everyone I came into contact with “what is your biggest fear?” I’d get responses like, ‘dying’, ‘losing my job’, ‘living a lonely life’ and yet when people asked me in return I’d say nothing. An answer that still has absolutely no truth to it AT ALL. I feared everything, but most of all I feared myself. My anger, my withdrawal, my want to not need, my mind and emotions telling me this world didn’t need or want me. Then, I found Jesus and through Him, a relationship that would forever change that fear. Years later, yes, I still struggle with fear, but that struggle is quickly put at easy by knowing my faithful Father God has given me the tools, through His word and through prayer, that allows me to let go of my fear. Knowing my life is in the safest hands possible, that all obstacles I come across, bad and good, are gifts from God. Praise Jesus for making it THAT simple!

    • Praising Him with you!! He loves us so much that He does not want us living in a state of defeat … and unfortunately fear does that do us IF we let it. Making the decision 24/7 not to let fear rule my world … some days are easy and some days are not … but what a great relief knowing that all I have to do is make the choice to turn the fear over to the One who loves me like crazy and has my best interest at heart.

  10. Donna,
    Thank you for your words! Every one of those scenarios you mentioned stung me hard. I don’t have experience with most of them, but I fear for that little girl and woman…and pray that my children will not have fear such as this. I have my own fears and am thankful for the new online bible study coming up to help me deal with them.
    God Bless You!
    Sheila

    • Thanking Him with you! Can’t wait for God to use Micca to teach me more about how He is going to help me deal with my fears. I wish I could say that I don’t fear anymore …. but I do …I just have to remember to turn those fears over to Him one by one! Praying the same for you. See you on-line during the study.

  11. Thanks so much for sharing your story, Donna. I too often let fear rule my life, and it keeps me from so many opportunities and blessings in my life. I sometimes even fear to trust my heavenly Father, but He is teaching me more and more how totally different He is from my earthly father. Thanks again, Donna. Thanks to you, too, Melissa.

    • Our Heavenly Father is so much different than my earthly Father. And it took me years to process that and truly grasp it. And yep, I have my days where I trust Him more than other days. But the cool thing is that no matter how low my level of trust can get …. He still loves me and He is always there for me ….24/7/365 days! What an amazing truth for us to grasp!

  12. I have let fear control me most of my life. Whether it was fear of being made fun of, lack of self confidence, or afraid of not pleasing everyone around me. At the age of 53 I am now ready to conquer it and let God take over everything. It’s time! Thank you for sharing!

    • Yay Debi!! Readiness to conquer is half the battle! You go girl! With his help, you will be the conqueorer!! Let Him have His way with you … Surrender it all into His hands and let Him carry the fear for you.

  13. Donna – thank you for sharing! I can totally relate to your story and the lifelong fears that go along with these things.
    May God bless you!

    • Carol, It was all God and His empowering for me to share. It’s His work that He is doing in me … nothing of myself … it is all 100% totally HIM!! And I love it!

  14. Donna, thank you for sharing. It means a lot to this 50 year old to hear that you are reaching out and attacking the fear head on with all of us! Great article! I can relate as I am on the threshold of change in my life too. Thank you Melissa for sharing Donna with us!

    • Mary B, I am attacking it all of you and with God and am so thankful that I am not on this journey by myself. I love my on-line communities with Melissa Taylor and Renee Swope! God is using the both of them to teach me much about total dependence on Him and giving Him first place in my life! Can’t wait to get back into “an untroubled heart”. God has used Micca Campbell’s words, her heart and her life in huge ways when it comes to fear! Can’t wait to get back to turning those pages with this group of amazing women!

  15. Thanks for this, I believe I might have the right answer to my problem now. Although it is a big decision I have to make I believe with God everything is possible right? I just want to feel him so much more… :(

    • Abby, if you have God, you have the right answer!! And yep, everything with God is possible … EVERYTHING!! He is our Savior…He is our All in All … He is our Abba Father …. He is our Everything!! Believe, accept and trust that with Him everything is possible!!! He loves you beyond measure and sometimes even beyond comprehension. Pray and ask Him to reveal more of Himself to you. He will and He will willingly and wantingly. Praying for you!

  16. Thank you for sharing Donna! Most of your comments could be my life story. I have let fear rule my life since I was young. That fear and reluctance to allow God to fully have the reins in my life have held me back. Even now, I struggle to comprehend that “God is who He says He is” and “God will do what He says He will do.” I know the words, but just don’t grasp them. Thank you for this gentle reminder!

    • Megan, isn’t it amazing how God mirrors our lifes with the lifes of others! I truly believe He does that so we can learn from each other and be used my Him in the lifes of others. I make a daily and even sometimes hourly choice to believe that God is who He says He is sometimes I even have to make that choice by circumstance. Ask God to show you Himself and just know that God is a promise keeper. He has given us promise and after promise in His word. It’s against God’s very being to lie…its not in His nature or character. Just believe what you read in His word! The more time you spend with Him, the more of His character and the more of Himself He will reveal to you! Praying that you will trust Him enough to make the head and the heart connect! He loves you like no one else is capable of … soak it in and BELIEVE it!

  17. Breinny says:

    Donna, what a gift you have given us all in finding your voice to share your life and heart for the glory of God! :-) Sister, thank you for your bravery and for your transparency — it is in these moments of boldness for Him, when we put our worries about what others think of us aside and focus on obediently caring more about what HE thinks of us, that we bless each other the most. I am looking forward to hearing and seeing more of you and what God has in store for your hope-filled future!

    • Thanks Brienny! I have loved doing the on-line studies and prayer groups with you! God has truly blessed me through you! Thanks for your kind words …and I am also looking forward to seeing what God has in store for me and these groups and the leaders! God is doing amazing things in and through Himself through these studies and the amazing women that are so freely give of themself for His kingdom purposes. Thankful we are on this journey together!

  18. Thank you for being so honest and open with us. Fear and anxiety has always been a big factor in my life. Fear of being good enough, capable of being a mother and wife and now – retirement! Will there be enough to do the things that need to be done and should be done???? I know God is the one I should run to and let Him have all of it, but……sometimes I let myself get worked up about all of it again and then here I go again.

    • Linda, I feel your pain and yes God is the one to run too. He is yours and you are His. And yes, you are good enough to do any and everyone thing. Think and meditate upon who you are in Him. He has chosen you. He loves you so much that He sent His only son to die just for you. You are His daughter. You are His child. He has bought you with a price. You belong to Him. He has hand picked you to be his royal diadem. You are holy and dearly loved by Him! Meditate and soak up those truths!

  19. Carol Bruntlett says:

    Thank you Donna for heating this out of the ball park, oh how I relate to this being 55 yrs old it seems like everything that I compare myself to would go away because I always think I am not good enough to hang out with the cool people or I have said something wrong to upset someone but I got to remember its not me and it’s not about me it’s between them and God. I have struggle with insecure and fearfulness most of my life I believe it started when I was in first grade was suppose to trust the person in my life that was my dad but I just know that he was not suppose to do what he done well I believe that’s where all my insecurities started and my fearfulness , after growing I started going down the road of destruction and did not care what happen to me just to end the pain but God found me in 2001 and saved this soul from the pit of mud and pulled me out and washed me clean , believe me I still struggle with junk and fear and anexity and loneliness , thats why I try to stay in God word to keep my mind from going down the road of your no good, thank you for this post and looking forward to the study
    Carol

    • Carol, so thankful that God found you in 2001! What an amazing blessing! And yep, I too still struggle with my fears, my past, my loneliness too. But we must remember that none of those things define us. And that no matter where we are … He is there with us. I love the promise that He gives each of us that He will never leave me, nor forsake. And for the past 40 years even through my fears, He has never left me and He will never leave you! And I too am excited about Melissa’s next study! Praying that God will use it to transform us all from the inside out and that we will have teachable spirits and ears that hear His message and courage to put into action His words into our lifes. I so want to live my life in a way that brings Him honor and glory.

  20. Christy says:

    Thank you so much for sharing! I am fearful of what tomorrow may bring. I keep telling myself that God will provide but sometimes I don’t believe myself. I keep trying to keep going but I want to crawl into a hole and never come out. I really hope this next study I can learn more about God and His love for me.

    • Christy, you will love this study and the book! God does not want you to live in a state of fear or in a hole somewhere to never come out! God made you to be in relationship with Himself and with others. Just think, God made you so He could talk and visit with you and so that you could talk and visit with Him. God loves you!! God wants His best for you. The best way I can describe God’s love for you is that He loves you so much that He sent His Son to die on the cross just for you! If you were the only person on the face of the earth, He would have sent His Son just to die for you. He loves you unconditionally! There is nothing that you have done in your past or that you will do in your future that will separate you from His love. The only thing that can do that is if you have never accepted Jesus as your Savior.

      I have to constantly make choices to believe Him, believe His promises and believe that He loves me like just like I am. Praying for you! And so thankful that you have chosen to do Micca’s study with us! I do believe, no make that I know that God will reveal more of Himself to you through His word and through Micca. Believe it and trust Him to do so …and better yet, ask Him to. He will in BIG ways!

  21. Thank you for sharing from your heart, Donna. I have lived pretty much my entire life in fear, and like you the fear has turned into anger at times. I’ve tried every self help book out there (or so it seems) but at the end of the day…nothing has changed. I struggle with the inner core of myself and sometimes I have hope and other times I don’t. Can’t wait to order the book and start this bible study.

    • Doreen, thank you for sharing your heart! I get the fear becoming anger. I would blow up at the drop of the hat for no particular reason because I wouldn’t deal with the real root of the problem – my lack of trust for God who loved me like crazy. There were even times when pride would creep in and cause me to stumble. I would tell myself that I didn’t need any help …. like a little kid I would often stomp my feet and tell myself that I could do it all by myself. I tried every self help book that was in print too … only to find that I already owned the best self help book out there … several actually – my Bible! It wasn’t until I picked my Bible up on a daily basis and began reading God’s love letter to me that I truly began to trust Him and believe that He really loved me. That was when I really began to understand God and His character and His love for me. How can I know God without reading about Him? His story is recorded there … just like parts of mine are recorded on Melissa’s blog. Get to know Him and through His words and your prayers. Let him to the work and trust Him to do the work. He does love you!!! He has chosen you to be His! Trust Him!! Love Him!! Talk with Him!!! Surrender your fears and anger to Him. He loves you no matter what!!

  22. So proud of you friend for being so courageous – for walking through your fears right into the arms of Jesus and laying it all out before Him — to heal – to redeem and restore. Thank you for being willing to share your heart so openly so that others might find the hope you have received in HIM. I see HIM in you so beautifully – in your strength and in your weakness. You ROCK!!

    • Renee,

      God has used you and the message of “A CONFIDENT HEART” to get me to the point of being able to share my life story and my heart with others. (with a whole lot of prompting from Melissa). It is through the message that He gave you and your willingness to be used by Him to show me how I too can stop doubting myself and live in His promises believing and trusting Him every step of the way. So I thank you for your investment in my life! I thank you for showering me with encouragement and love! Thanks for loving me through the eyes of Jesus!

  23. Thank you for sharing. It helps to be reminded that others struggle with fear and are able to find peace. I just need to remember where that peace comes from and turn it all over to Him.

    • Lynne, I need that reminder every day!! And I too need to remember that I am called to turn it all over to him every day. Wish I could tell you that I did that every day …. but I don’t. I get cocky and prideful and think that I can do it without Him. And then He gently taps me on the shoulder and reminds me that it’s Him doing the work and not me! And I am thankful that He is my Peace!

  24. Joanie Brooks says:

    Donna,
    Thank you so much for sharing this. Over the last two and a half years,
    I have felt that I should be fearful of being told that my son at that time has Leukemia. It’s a fear that has somewhat gone away since I know God is in control and He will take care of my twelve year old son. Each day I don’t know what my son will feel like, but I do rely on God to take care of him and hopefully one day hear the doctors tell me that he is free of cancer!! I’m praising God each day
    to have my son with me!!
    Joanie

    • Joanie, Thank you for sharing the story of you and your Son. Yep, cancer is an ugly thing but so thankful that your son is with you. And so glad that you are relying on Him and finding your hope in Him. Praying for you and your son.

  25. Leisa W. says:

    Thank You Father that I have learned in my fear to seek You as my vital necessity. Yes, I do fear but thankfully I no longer remain there because of our relationship and the power of Your Word.

    Thankful!

  26. Hilda Quintanilla says:

    Donna, thank you for blessing us with your testimony. Fear is paralyzing! Unabeling one to remain immovable and unfruitful for the kingdom. For way too many years, I suffered from anxiety, panic disorder, phobias and depression. One Sunday night, during a prayer meeting at church, I went forth for prayer, the entire church prayed over me and was healed. Seeing the fruit the Lord has privileged me to bear, for the praise and glory of His name, I see why the devil, the liar wanted to keep me bound to these chains! Continued blessings to you!

    • Praising Him for your story and for the work that He has done and is doing in your life. All praise, honor and glory to Him!

  27. Patricia Fancher says:

    WOW! Nothing like reading a mirror image of oneself! I mean as I began reading it felt like I was doing the writing. Amazing! I have lived in fear all my life. At 11 months of age my crib was set on fire while I was in it. I was not physically hurt but the memory was seared in the back if my mind and then for over twenty years I was taught that before entering into heaven I would go to a place to have all my sins burned from me. I was afraid to live and afraid to die. I no longer believe inpurgatory but working through the damage as a result of living with that has not been easy as well as my fear of people. God has been slowly healing me!

    • Patricia, praying for you my Sister in Christ. I can’t begin to fathom the fear of having my crib set on fire. Thanking Him that you were not physically harmed and praising Him that He is healing you. Also praying that HE will show you how to release your fear of people and trust Him and to trust others. Thanks for your bravery and your willingness to share parts of your story.

  28. Patricia Fancher says:

    WOW! Nothing like reading a mirror image of oneself! I mean as I began reading it felt like I was doing the writing. Amazing! I have lived in fear all my life. At 11 months of age my crib was set on fire while I was in it. I was not physically hurt but the memory was seared in the back if my mind and then for over twenty years I was taught that before entering into heaven I would go to a place to have all my sins burned from me. I was afraid to live and afraid to die. I no longer believe inpurgatory but working through the damage as a result of living with that has not been easy aswell-knownl as my fear of people. God has been slowly healing me!

  29. My greatest fear is that my family will not choose to follow the Lord. My precious grandchildren who are not being taught about the Lord, my children who know better, but still go their own way. My husband who professes faith, but lives his own life with no visible evidence of a relationship with the Lord. My dad and siblings who do not know God and who do not want to hear about Him either. I am trying to pray and trust without giving in to fear.

    • Father God, I too would like to pray for Kathleen and her family. I pray Father God that you will draw Kathleen’s family to yourself. Praying that you will change hard hearts into soft hearts that become pliable to you and your love. I lift Kathleen up to as well. I pray that you will use her life as an example to her family. And that her family will Jesus in her as she ministers, cares and prays for her family. And that her family would desire to know You as she does. Fill her with your strength and your wisdom. Direct her steps, guard her heart, and filter her speech as she shares your love with her family. Make yourself known to her family as only you can. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  30. What an inspiration and wise woman you are Donna! Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you to reach others wading through the same trenches of struggle you have described. After reading your blog post I am very excited for the upcoming bible study. It is amazing how God puts the right information in front of you when you need it most. Blessings to you!

    • Stacy, thanks for the encouragement. And I too, love God’s timing! And He is my inspiration! And I can’t wait to get started as well in Micca’s book. Can’t wait to see what God is going to teach us and share with us through Micca’s story.

  31. I have not HEARD this verse, 2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” before. NOW I hope/pray to remember this verse as I can so relate to fear controlling my life and my fear turning to anger and depression.

    • Jennifer, I know … don’t you love that verse and the promise in it?? It’s your verse and promise now from Him. Take it, claim it and live it!

  32. Amanda R. says:

    Donna,
    Amen! I just spoke with a friend yesterday about being fearful. Fear of the unknown. I’m constantly reminded of the issues of my past and how faithful my Savior has been to me and my family. Fear of the unseen and yet not abandoned. Thank you for your words today. To know that my fears don’t define me is a victory within itself.

    • Amanda, isn’t it a great to know that our fears and our past don’t define us!! I love that fact! Couple that with His faithfulness and His unconditional love for us and we are good to go!! Another promise to remember is that He will never leave us nor forsake us NO MATTER WHAT!!!

  33. Dear Donna, so many of us identify with your fears with fears of our own. I do. My journey overcoming fear has lead me to God’s Love. I Corinthians Chapter 13, the Love Chapter, so marvelous, so wonderful; Faith, Hope, Love; the Greatest of these is Love. I John 4:18 – Love drives out fear. All through God’s Word, we are told of His Love and Truth, the opposite of doubt and fear. Let us abide in His Love and overcome fear. Thankful that we can love and nurture each other with His Word and most of all, His Love.

    • Susan, thank you for these amazing verses and promises from Him. I love them. And I also love that fact that He made us to be in a relationship with Him and with others. So thankful for the Jesus girls that He surrounds me with not only up close and personal but also through Melissa’s studies. I am blessed beyond measure by His love and the love of others.

  34. Thanks for your story Donna.
    I have dealt with fears most of my live. Some days are better than others. I am very uncomfortable around people. I’m fear that if they really knew me. So, I have been a loner most of my life,also. But, your story gives me hope that I may over come some or all my fears.

    • Cynthia, so thankful that God can use my story to bring you hope. Praying that He will complete the good work in you that He has begun. Continue to look for Him as your source of Hope and for your future. Remember He has a plan just for YOU – one that He has written only for you! He loves you and so desires for you to lay those fears at His feet. He wants to carry those fears for you and allow you to live in freedom. Praying for you!

  35. KAY PARRISH says:

    FEAR FEAR OF BEING INSANE AND NEVER REGAINING MY SANITY. I AM 67 YEARS YOUNG AT 20 I HAD A BREAK DOWN AND THEY HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS THE PROBLEM. THEN 1984 TOTAL COMPLETE BREAKDOWN. HOSPITALIZED TOLD LOVING HUSBAND I MIGHT NOT EVER RECOVERY. I DID. BUT THE ATTACKS CAME MORE OFTEN. IN THE 90′S THEY DECIDED IT WAS BI POLAR. STARTED MEDINCINE, I WISH I COULD SAY IT IS A THING OF THE PAST BUT PRAISE GOD. HUSBAND CAN CARE FOR ME AND I HAVE BEEN FREE FROM ATTACK FOR OVER 3 YEARS. VERY SMALL DOSAGE OF MEDS. I PRAISE GOD THAT FEAR NO LONGER RULES MY LIFE. THANK YOU FOR SHARING. KAY

    • Kay, rejoicing with you and thanking God for His healing and providing you with a husband who is not only willing but also capable of taking care of you. Also praising Him that He has delivered YOU from your fears. And praying that as you move forward that those fears will not return. Praying for God’s protection over you.

  36. I have lived with fear my whole life. From my earliest memories, I have lived holding myself back from living a full life. I still struggle with that even at the age of 46 years old. I have had agoraphobia most of my life as well as panic attacks. (check out my blog). I have had 3 suicides and one murder in my family as well as abuse, medical neglect, car accidents, dysfunctional family members, toxic relationships, all which has caused more fear. I am working daily to become all God has called me to be. Writing is my outlet and I believe God has allowed my words to bring healing into my life and heart.

    • Angie, so thankful that God has given you the gift of writing as an outlet to bring you healing. So thankful that He is our healer and that He is healing you of your fears. Thank you for your courage in sharing your life and story with us.

  37. Thank you for sharing Donna. I have let fear control my life for far too long. Fear of what could happen, fear of others, fear of rejection, fear of acceptance, fear that I was not good enough, fears of being unworthy of being loved.

    I have slowly released the grips of some fears while I still work on getting out of the grips of others. Secrets that were around me most of my life, well they still keep me with some valid concerns, but I am slowly learning to give it to God, and actually trust him to handle it all.

    • you are so welcome… and I get the secrets comment too…some of what I shared in the blog are secrets ….and I lived in fear as I wrote the blog and as lived in fear when I got the text that Melissa had posted it …I knew once it was posted …there was no going back for me. And you know … I am so thankful that they are out there now. I am living in FREEDOM!! And I love it … not to say those fears won’t creep back in …I know they will …but the better part of that is I know they wont stay long!

  38. Candace Lierd says:

    After my previous rounds of cancer, I fear my next Dr.’s appointment. I fear the loss of another child and I fear the trials in my life while make a debut performance. However, I do know I must rely on the promise the Lord gives us all. I know He has a plan and the speed bumps He hands me were designed for a purpose. I know I should not fear anymore, but there are times I let those fears overshadow my confidence in the knowledge of His plans. I am excited to dive into this study and finally toss the fears and my weaknessess and messy places out the window and leave them behind forever! So excited! Thank you so much for sharing and encouraging!!

    • Candace, I still have moments when fear overtakes me and my emotions. Usually happens about every 6 months, just as I get ready to have my tumor markers checked. But every test gets easier and easier and I thank Him and praise Him for that. So thankful that you have decided to do this study with us. You are going to be blessed!

  39. Wow ~ thank you for this! I recently made a life-changing decision (a month ago as of tomorrow) and my emotions are all over the place…still! This was a very powerful reminder, thank you.

    • Heidi, praying for God to guide and direct you in all that you do! Praying for your emotional and spiritually state as you make this life changing decisions. Praying for Him to go before you and lead and direct each step you take towards His heart.

  40. Thank you Donna for sharing! I struggle with fear. But I am learning to give it to Jesus and that is hard to do sometimes. I am looking forward to the study, my book just arrived in the mail today so I am excited to start reading!

    • Teresa, keep giving that fear away! He does not want you to hold onto it at all! He wants you to live a life of freedom in HIM! So excited to get started on the study too. Can’t wait to see how God is going to use Micca’s message to transform our hearts from the inside out!!

  41. Donna, Melissa is right…God has given you a GREAT gift….thank you for your transparency and listening to Melissa and obeying God…Love your verses…

    • Lynne, thanks much …. God has given me much and I am so blessed….and I am thankful that I listened not only to Melissa but also to God. He used Melissa to “push” me over some of my fears. I am so thankful that Melissa chooses to speak love into my life!! It’s the greatest quality one can ask for in a friend! Love her passion and her relentlessness for God and for others … especially me …… now to get past the fear of only having one blog to writing another….praying for God to provide.

  42. Oh my how I relate to you Donna I have struggled with fear most of my life I believe all the Scriptures you quoted and I love Jesus so much ans when I can’t seem to handle the fear any longer He is always faithful to deliver me but I pray through me understanding His live this strong hold will forever be uprooted in my life. Is it better now for you? Does the fear ever go away completely.
    Seems in my life it goes away but then comes back in the same way or different. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I trust God and have crawled into his lap for comfort and protection but I guess I want to know it will get easier.

    • Maria, thanks for your note. My fears kind of go and come depending on the circumstances at the time of the fear. The thing that I have found is that I release the fear quicker and rely on His promises faster than what I have in the past. The key for me is to stay in His word and to have Jesus sisters that come alongside me and encourage me like crazy. And when I pray … I praise Him first. That takes the focus off me and puts it on Him where it should be to begin with. The more I am filled up with Jesus, the less room there is for fear.

  43. Thank you for you’re reply Donna! May our dear Lord Bless you.

  44. Earlene Mason says:

    Donna,
    Thank you for sharing. I cannot understand how some can go through the trials of life without God at their side. I don’t understand why things happened the way they did, but someday I will, I just have to hold on to Him and trust that His words and promises are true, I would be utterly lost without that faith. I am nothing without Jesus. Honestly, there are times I am afraid I cannot do this, but am also learning the hard way to trust God in all areas of my life.

    I have an ache and a gaping hole in my heart, since I lost my daughter to cancer 4 months ago, but I am thankful we have her 4 beautiful daughters to raise. I cannot do this without God’s help. She was a shining example of God’s love. She was so kind and loving. She prayed for everyone and now Brianne is in the loving arms of Jesus, being loved on by the greatest love of all.

    I fear I am inadequate to raise the girls like she would want. Thank you for the verses you shared. I am looking forward to this study. Where can I get the study book.

    • Donna Bostick says:

      Earlene,

      My heart is breaking with yours. I am so so sorry for the loss of your daughter. And I so hate cancer, and yes God knows how much I hate it. I tell him all the time cause I too have lost several friends and family members to this dreadful disease.

      Father God, I thank for Earlene. I thank you for her willingness to share her story. I pray Father God that you will fill her with your words of comfort as only you can. Remove her fears. Fill her with your love, your grace, your mercy and your compassion. Fill her with your courage as she raises her beautiful grand daughters. Fill her with your wisdom and your boldness. Fill that hole that has been left with yourself.

      I pray and lift those precious grand daughters up to you. Fill them with yourself as well. Protect them. Protect their hearts. Cause them to seek you with all that they are and will all that they have. Comfort each one of them just as they need it. Encourage them. Fill their lonely aching hearts. Fill them with your peace. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

      Earlene, you can buy the book through Amazon.com or Proverbs31.org. Looking forward to doing the study with you.

  45. They said I HAD to read this… and they were so right. What a testimony, and this is only a small piece of it. How amazing that all you’ve been through, God can lead you to this online study and you can impact so many woman. Thank you for being open to hear the Father’s voice when He called. Now, other’s can find freedom from fear because you share your own personal journey.

    Blessings, sweet sister!