Sep 22

Unglued~Week 1

Imperfect

I am. You are. We all are. And that’s why we are doing this Unglued Online Study. The study will not make us perfect, but we will make imperfect changes. “Imperfect changes are slow steps of progress wrapped in grace…imperfect progress.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst, Chapter 1, Unglued

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Memory Verses for Week 1

Chapter 1

Hebrews 12:1b NIV84

… let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.

Chapter 2

2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV84

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Suggested Assignments for Week 1

****Note: depending on what side of the world you are on, the day may be different for you, and that is okay. I am in Charlotte, NC USA on Eastern Standard Time.

*****Another Note: Thursday will be Unglued Blog Hop Day. If you have a blog AND write a message that relates to Chapters 1 or 2 of Unglued, you can share it and I’ll link to your blog. This will give you the opportunity to share with us! So, bloggers, get those blog posts ready and bring them here on Thursday to share. I want to be read what you have to say!

Sunday~ Pray like you mean it. Take 5 minutes and pray for:

  • Yourself-that God would speak to you personally through this study and that you will listen and be open to His will for your life. Pray that you will stay committed throughout this study to read, keep up with your assignments, and get the most out of this time that you possibly can.
  • Your Bible Study Community-that each of us would gain more hope and closeness to God through this study. Pray for each other’s homes, jobs, and families. Pray whatever is on your heart for our OBS community.
  • Your Online Bible Study Leaders-pray for the OBS team to also be still and listen to God throughout this study. Pray for balance in our lives and wisdom as we lead here. Pray that we will not move one step forward without the Lord. And pray for His favor over each of us and this OBS.

If you’d like to share in the comment section, that would be great. But you don’t have to. Your prayers are most importantly between you and God, but for those of us who are just learning to pray, reading the prayers of others could be very helpful. It’s up to you :)

Get prepared for Monday. Go ahead and have your book and any other supplies you might need (Bible, notebook, pen, highlighters) set out or in a bag together where you can find it easily. Get a good night’s sleep.

Monday~ Read Chapter 1,  An Invitation to Imperfect Progress. Use a highlighter to highlight parts you want to remember or come back and read later. Make notes in your notebook of key Scripture (like the Memory Verse) and important things to remember from Chapter 1. e

Visit my blog, www.MelissaTaylor.org to join in the discussion of Chapter 1. There will be a chance for you to win 1 of 3 Conference Call Series Give-Aways and you will also meet our special guest of the week, Deborah Smith Pegues, author of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue and 30 Days to Taming Your Emotions.

Tuesday~ Visit my blog, www.MelissaTaylor.org. There are reflection and discussion questions for you to answer in your personal notebook pertaining to Chapter 1. Have your Bible handy because we will be using them. Giving away 1 copy of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue and 1 copy of 30 Days to Taming Your Emotions by Deborah Smith Pegues to 2 lucky peeps who leave a comment today!

Wednesday~ Read Chapter 2, I’m Not a Freak Out Woman.  Use a highlighter to mark those aha moments and key points you want to remember. Visit Deborah Smith Pegues website and look around. She is so wise about confronting issues and how to handle what we say and our emotions in a healthy way. Visit my blog if you have time and check in. I’ll be announcing some winners!

Optional: Bloggers, get ready for the Unglued Blog Hop tomorrow! Have your Unglued post ready on your blog for Thursday. Tomorrow you will fill in the form that will be on my blog. This will link others to your blog. I’m hoping that many will participate in this. I’d love to read your blogs and what you are learning or have to say about Unglued. And for those of you who don’t blog, no worries! You will have many Unglued messages to read and enjoy. Everyone will benefit!

Unglued Conference Calls begin tonight! Deborah Smith Pegues is our special guest. She has much to share with us about conflict and handling our emotions. We will also be dissecting our Memory Verses and be challenged with a take home message to use right away. If you want to be a part of these calls, you can sign up here. This Conference Call Series is optional.

Thursday~ Today is going to be lots of fun! Visit my blog, www.MelissaTaylor.org. From there, we will be visiting our  bloggy friends from all over the world who are writing about this Unglued message! It’s an Unglued Blog Hop! It’s fun and we will learn a lot from each other!

For Facebook Users- We are having a party today! Whoo-hoo!!!  Join us today at 4 pm EST on Online Bible Studies Facebook Page

Friday~ Visit my blog, www.MelissaTaylor.org. Today I have a video message for you and some discussion and reflection questions about Chapter 2. Record your answers in your personal notebook and please also share in the comment section of my blog with your awesome Online Bible Studies Group!

Let’s finish strong this week!

 

For You Social Media Gurus

At OBS, we LOVE social media outlets where we can share more of God’s love and truth! If you are on Twitter, Facebook, or Pinterest, please like/follow us, share our posts. We have some from Week 1 all ready for you to share :)

Twitter:

“God gave me emotions so I could experience life, not destroy it.”~ @LysaTerKeurst @MTBibleStudies Week 1 #UngluedBook http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

In @MTBibleStudies, we are making imperfect progress together! Week 1 #UngluedBook http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control.”~ @LysaTerKeurst @MTBibleStudies Week 1 http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“We can’t always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our thoughts on God.”~ @LysaTerKeurst @MTBibleStudies Week 1 #UngluedBook http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“I am not a freak-out woman.”~ @LysaTerKeurst @MTBibleStudies Week 1 #UngluedBook http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

 

Facebook:

“God gave me emotions so I could experience life, not destroy it.”~LysaTerKeurst, Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies,Week 1 Unglued  http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

In Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies, we are making imperfect progress together! Week 1 Unglued Online Bible Study  http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control.”~LysaTerKeurst, Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies,Week 1 Unglued  http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“We can’t always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our thoughts on God.”~LysaTerKeurst, Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies,Week 1 Unglued  http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

“I am not a freak-out woman.”~LysaTerKeurst, Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies, Week 1 Unglued  http://bit.ly/2tOhFl

 

Pinterest:

Pins for Chapters 1 & 2 are up!  Follow and repin!  http://pinterest.com/melissatayloros/unglued-bible-study/

 

This is a lot of information, but remember, this is your guide for the whole week! Hang on to this (print it or make it a favorite) so you can refer to it during the week so you’ll know what to do. It may seem overwhelming at first, but as we get started, you will get the hang of it.

Please leave a comment or ask a question in the comment section. Our team will get back to you as soon as we can.

I hope you are as excited as I am about this Online Bible Study! I love this book, I love applying the Bible to my real life, and I love to study with others. Thank you so much for joining me!  Here we go!

Melissa

Comments

  1. I am actually getting real close to unglued right now. I have two young girls and I really feel sorry for them because I feel like I am always coming unglued. It is like I am always disciplining them and I hate to admit it but I yell a lot. The worst part is that I seem to be able to control myself with everyone else. I hopeful that through this study and prayers God will mold me into a mom that has more control of her emotions.

    • I hear ya, Heather. It’s tough with young children. Hang in there. Young ones need much more discipline and guidance than their older siblings and it does seem like we are always on their case. Just remind yourself, if you can control your emotions in the Walmart checkout lane, or with a cop when he stops you for speeding, you can control them with the people you love the very most. We can be self-controlled when we go to God with our concerns. He will honor that. Just keep asking.

  2. I am just so glad that someone else understands why I get upset about something so insignificant as towels. Lookin forward to finding out better ways to deal with things that seem to eventually turn into bigger things.

  3. It is comforting to know that when I come “unglued” that I have a God that can mend me back together…especially emotionally. When we are able to refocus on what is important and what is part of God’s will, then the emotions subside and we can then handle life just a little better. Thank you Lord!

  4. I thought I was the only one who came unglued. I could relate to Chapter 1. So many times after the yelling I’ve ask God to forgive me, just to do it all over again. I pray that I will find the way to tame my tongue and take control of myself and my words.

    • I know how you fell. It seems that everyday I am asking God to forgive me for my words. Sometimes I feel like I can never change.

  5. I often wake up and tell myself I am not going to yell at the kids today. I am not going to allow myself to go to THAT place where I feel the tension running up my back because of the tiniest bickering between my children. And neverfear… the whining starts and the tension builds followed by my good calm judgement flying out the window and I yell! Then I feel as if I have let myself and everyone else down. Being Unglued is absolutely a way of life most days and the time to change the pattern is now! Thank you Lysa for another great book!

  6. After reading Chapter 1, I felt like she was writing about my life. Not just becoming unglued but the regret and disappointment in myself afterwards. Glad to know I’m not the only one!

  7. Kelly Acuff says:

    As I read the first few pages it was said God hit me square between the eyes in the loving way only He could. I can’t even count the times I have come “Unglued”. I am so glad I am doing this study !

  8. Jennifer Davis says:

    So I have tried to post comments 2 different times and they get erased for some reason. So instead of retyping it all I will share that I can so relate to her saying “to feel both the burden of my destructive behavior and the shane of the powerlessness to stop it.” Huge for me and how I feel daily. I so badly want to change and handle my emotions differently and can’t stand when I fail. I know it is imperfect progress but it is hard to not get down on yourself when you continue to fail. But SATAN, get behind me. I will be different by the grace of God, he will get me through this and thank God his mercies are new everyday. I also really relate to “I know what its like to be on the receiving end of unglued behavior and to experience the painful sting of disrespect that makes me want to hurt the person that hurt me.” I have thought about that when I am having one of those unglued moments on my 5 and 2 year old. They are babies and I don’t want them growing up feeling the feelings I have towards my mom sometimes still d/t being on the receiving end of her unglued moments. That is why I am doing this study so my children don’t have to fear me, or fear talking to me or coming to me about anything. I want them to feel safe with sharing their feelings or thoughts with me, and be who they want to be, and me be able to handle the situation in a way pleasing to God. Them not feel ashamed or scared. That’s what I want. I want to be different. I need to learn new behaviors so I can unlearn what I have learned for the last 32 years of my life. Say that again and again.

    • This resonated with me too. Your words bring it to heart even more. I’m on the same journey with God raising little ones and healing from the past hoping to not repeat the cycle.

  9. christina g says:

    I watched this video before I got the book from my mail box. was super happy it came today. I enjoyed what u read and when i got the book. I underlined it also. to just make progress. chapter 1 is awesome!! the memory verse is great too. too throw off all the problems. because what we are doing isnt working, so time to get a new plan. Looking forward to imperfect progress.

  10. I love the analogy on page 16 about the baby chick breaking free from the shell of an egg as analogous to our struggle with emotions. We can harness these times of struggle and grow from them, great feeling!

  11. I read chapter 1 and felt like she was writing about me and my life. I want to make this progress so that unglued is something I can have a better handle on for myself and my children. I am also glad to know I am not alone and we will be embarking on this journey together. It looks like I picked the right bible study to do for my very first one. Thank you!

  12. I live in Las Vegas and its just my husband and i. but i can truly relate to the first chapter. him and i are trying to do this together , so he has watched the DVD and i have read the book, so we may be behind a day but i really need the prayers and encouragement. this is our first year of marriage and unglued is what we do most of our time together. he works days and i work graveyard. so there is a lot of work and praying we must do.

    • Hi Sherita I can really relate with you here, because I’m the one who works graveyard shift. We been married for 25 yrs and no childen. I almost let satan talk me out of doing this study, but the devil is a liar!! After reading the first chapter I just lol :o) That was one of my unglued moments, the towels, the laundry, the dishes, the blinds, air, etc. I feel just like I’m out of control and then the regrets. I fine working this shift is sooo difficult on our relationship. He’s up and I’m sleep during the day, I’m up and his sleep at night… Time together, What time together, if any… I want to
      encouraged you! Pg.9 “The Promise of Progress” “God gave us emotions.”Ilike that Lysa stop right there with a period, so we can feel, connect, share laughter and know the empathy. emotions such as sadness, fear, shame, and anger. Remember God gave emotions so I could experience life, not destroy it. Here’s where I sooo agree with Lysa “Gentle discipline on lessons learned, strategies discovered, scriptures applied, imperfections understood, and grace embraced, peace found, peace misplace, flaws admitted, and Forgiveness remembered, I Celebrated Progress Made!!! but most of all seek Progress that will last long after. Drink deeply from the Word of Hope, and may grace and peace be yours. I am praying for you and your husband, please keep me in your prayers. May God bless the both of you through this study.

  13. Just saw this on facebook tonight. With all the negative news every day I am glad to see this positive news for a change. God bless your efforts.

  14. One day all will be caught and that day is speedily happening because God says so-no one can’t beat God or tell him what to do. He promised me He will expose.I say thank you Jesus.

  15. This is the 2nd book that I have read by Lysa. I can identify with her so much, it is like we are best friends. She puts into words what I experience in my life. Thank you, God, for using Lysa to identify what I need to work on in my life. My husband is disabled and I work in a middle school. I come unglued many times and I want that to stop.

  16. When I read the words…Life isn

  17. I am so relating to this book right now and so glad that it come into my life when it did. I fully admit that I find it very easy to become unglued and yet through reading the book and applying principles and tips from it, I am finding it easy to not come unglued as often.

  18. Melissa (and Lysa!)
    I learned something very important today, and that is that decibel levels and drama are not necessarily an accurate measure of coming Unglued! I can be calm, self-controlled and sound completely rational-and STILL make foolish choices in the midst of raw emotions. I just don’t recognize them as such because I didn’t get over-emotional.
    So, I am resolved to be more alert to my unglued moments, even the ones that come in disguise!

  19. So, I am already starting out imperfectly! It is Tuesday and I am starting….Better late than never. Thank you for this community. I am SOOO looking forward to reading this book and this study. I will be praying for all of us.

    • Ashley G.B. says:

      Ditto! Have the best of intentions. Went to find my book and can’t find where either I misplaced it or one of my little ones moved it?! I’ve read chapter 1, but have not gotten to the 2nd one yet. Prayers for helping me find my book, please!!

  20. So great to know how to make do-over. Every morning the same, stress, pressure, getting everyone up, ready, out the door fed! Makes Mama mentally challenged. I am excited to change my thought process and start it with GOD!

  21. Finished the first two chapters and have enjoyed the book. My sentiments are shared by many of the women who’ve posted ahead of me. thanks for sharing everyone.

  22. I am starting out imperfect as well with this bible study, but what I found most inspiring about the first reading was the passage that said, “No, we won’t bend from the weight of our past, but we will bow to the One who holds out hope for a better future. That to me is what a bible study leads us to. God reveals the things we need to work on and then we have to ask for His grace to fix what we have ourselves messed up, learned, or accepted as Ok….. He allows us to come to Him to cleans in his water so that we may start over and retrain and reshape our brains. Looking forward and not behind… to the possible good outcome and not get wrapped up in the not so good moment. “Because we feel, we connect”… How else could we experience His amazing love, “drink deeply from it and treasure it!” Our brains become trained to keep coming back to His unchanging love.. This is a reaction connected to emotion<3 I am so excited to share and be a part of this OBS…

  23. What keeps you from making changes ….? I don’t want to fail again so I don’t want to start. However, one has to keep changing to more forward .. so I am taking a step forward and starting something new today.

  24. I just have to say Thank You to all of you who are praying for everyone in this Bible study. Your prayers held me up today as I was bombarded with moments to excercise some imperfect progress. I didn’t realize it until I started reflecting on my day, but I can see how God was with me in each situation helping me to respond correctly and in control almost like He was showing me how great life will be if I can master this thing.

  25. I haven’t actually received my book in the mail yet, but I’ve been following the blog and reading what everyone has to say..I’m glad this subject has come up and I’m not the only unglued woman out there ! I’m 43 years old and have raised 4 great kids. I am now doing foster care for 2 little boys, one with special needs..and boy have I lost every now and then ..but I’m ready to pick up the pieces and accept my imperfect progress and keep going forward..God bless you all

  26. Lori Del Core says:

    Read the 30 Fears and fear of inadequacy really spoke to me and that I needed to really trust just God, as my complaint is always that there is no one I can really trust. All the while God is speaking to my heart, saying Lori, trust ME , trust me. So, alas, I am slowly softening my hardened heart and getting a little more ready to let someone back in my heart. thank you

  27. So it’s Wednesday and I’m just starting the study thanks to a nasty stomach bug. I’m thankful that I will not feel “unglued” even in those quiet moments of unease when no one knows I am unglued!

  28. Not sure I am going to be able to complete this. I just got the book yesterday and already feel all stressed out from other things and it feels like just one more thing piled on to the other stresses I have. I may just do it in my own time and keep track of it myself if that is ok. I am sorry. I had cancer and with the surgery and treatments I had I am very slow with everything and my thinking isnt always good. I know this is a good thing and I want to do it but I cant keep up quite frankly!

    • Hang it there Denise! I know it is hard with all you are going through right now. I too am dealing with health issues but I think, at least for me, it will be worth it if I can give just 15-20 minutes each day, God will do the rest from the seed I sow. Will be praying for your health, both physically and spiritually. God bless you as you seek Him!!

      • Thank you so much for sharing with me Sherri! I appreciate your comments and prayers and I will do my best to stay in the bible study and be happy with imperfect progress! Will probably be behind most of it but oh well! Thanks again and I will keep you in prayers too!

        • Denise… Place it in Gods hands he will guide you the direction you need to go… Hardest thing to do but it is so true. Hope you feel better soon this is a long and hard battle you having been facing. God Bless You

  29. Feeling unglued today… looking for a house or something to live in… shouldn’t be so hard. I need livingroom, kitchen, dining area, 2 bedrooms and a bathroom on the main level — in case my 93 year old mother in law moves in with us. Everything seems to be stairs up and more stairs down. Unglued – tonight I have nothing holding me together. I can’t even think. Good night.

  30. Yesterday I was shopping and was at the deli counter talking with the woman waiting on me, as we started talking I told her the hardest thing I had to conquer was my outspokenness. She looked at me and said “I have the say problem I speak first and think later.” I explained that I was trying to count to 10 before I spoke trying to get my emotion together first. I told her we cannot take back the words we speak and watching the hurt in others eyes have really made me think twice. But it took finding God for me to realize this. For the record I had not read Chapter 2 yet so when I got home and read it I had a real wow moment

  31. Not sure why but I think the enemy wants to keep me from doing this study!!! I’ve read Chapters 1 & 2 and catching up on the blog posts. I’ll be ready for the new week and will hopefully have a better one! Actually came unglued about some towels (lack of) yesterday. :/

  32. Being disciplined is getting easier, but some days not so easy. I try to control my reactions. What do we do when people intentionally try to get us unglued?

  33. WOW this is fun. I just purchasd the book( Unglued ) today and read the first chapter. Meaty stuff. I have four children and I take care of my mom (she lives with us and has Alzhiemers) and I work full time so this is exciting sharing with others on line for the first time on my time.Thank you sooo much. I totally can relate to the “towel” thing in chapter one.Almost every morning getting my two younger boys off to school 20 minutes away…i feel like coming “unglued” and sometimes ” I do ” !! I praise God one minute and sing to him then the next breath is yelling at the kids !! I was just thinking today Matt 12:34 -35 says that ” out of the heart the mouth speaks” I real absolutley terrible after yelling and I think…wow my heart needs some serious work!!!!

  34. I was so very excited to read this book! I am super excited to be reading through it again! Reading Unglued has touched me on many levels. After reading through a few of the comments below, I can already relate to ALL of them. I know that I am in the right place. In a way, it seems that I was “raised” to be a UNGLUED woman. Yelling and screaming was all I have ever known, and sadly, it’s pretty much all I have ever done. It seems like it’s a daily thing for me to have screaming matches between me and my husband or my three teenaged sons. I know deep down inside, that that is NOT the woman God created me to be. I know that there is a warm, tender, loving and gentle woman in there. It’s time for her to awaken and arise. It’s time for her to show her wonder family the love and gentleness that they as Children of God deserve! I know with all of my heart and soul that through God’s Word, and through this Bible study, God will continue changing me and molding into that beautiful tender-hearted woman He created me to be. May God bless each and every one of us women as we embark on this incredible journey to become better wives, better mothers, better sisters, better daughters, better women!

  35. During the last two years, I’ve encountered a new series of struggles in my life that I pray this Study and others will help. I’m just 47 years old, had a surgical hysterectomy in December 2010, have always struggled with my weight (not morbidly obese), sleep apnea, job stress, relocating to the other side of the country, anxiety, and menopause. Does anyone out there relate?

    My personality has changed as well. I’m not willing to accept those times when I believe I have been “disrespected” and just chalk them up to someone else being themselves. I also have a deeper respect for my own mortality. I have a rare diagnosis which is benign but chronic and had a recent breast cancer “scare”. God is with me throughout…I just find it tiring after two years to be dealing with the menopause symptoms as well as the snoring and weight gain. I don’t look like the Lord’s daughter these days…

    • We are all beautiful in God’s eyes… I am sure you are beautiful to others as well; when we look in the mirror we never see what others see “BEAUTY”. May God hold your hand through all this and you lean on him and trust him, God Bless you.

      • Elisabeth, I can totally relate to you. I’m only 32, and I just had a complete hysterectomy last month! ( Aug. 22) I too have been dealing with chronic health issues for the past few years. I can totally empathize with how you are feeling! My weight has also been an issue, and a HUGE factor in depression and anxiety. I’ll be perfectly honest here, I am very blessed and very grateful to be sitting here typing out this response to you. Just two weeks after my surgery, (3 weeks ago)I overdosed on my pain pills. I spent 3 days in a locked unit. So yea, sister, I can relate 100% with menopause, and all the craziness that comes with it! I don’t think us women anticipate going nuts right after a surgery like that either! But God is with us! He has a greater plan for our lives, regardless of our circumstances. Regardless of our health or our size, we are still HIS daughters! We are still created in HIS image and likeness! We are still BEAUTIFUL in HIS eyes! And no matter what we are going through in this life, He is going through it with us, because He loves us! Hang in there sister. Keep your head up! Great things are going to happen in our lives. This Bible study, is just the beginning of an amazing journey for us! God bless you sister!

  36. I too feel like this book was written for me! I can totally relate. I feel like I tend to become “unglued” especially with my children because they are the most important/valueable responsibility I have. I so desperately want to do my very best with what God has entrusted to me for the next 18 years, however, that also puts a great deal of pressure on me to “be perfect” or “get it right”. I pray that through this study, I will be better able to do the job God has laid out for me with control of emotions. I adore my family and long to hear God say…”well done my good and faithful servant”! (No pressure on me… – ha ha!)

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