Hello again, it’s Jamy. Boy, this study is really hitting home with me this week (pun intended). I love the tips and insights that Karen provides throughout the chapter. Changes are being made around the Whitaker house. There are two key points that I would like to share with you today.
- “Set the tone of the house” (pg. 114)
Ladies, we have a huge responsibility to set the mood and atmosphere in our homes. If we are short-tempered and quick to find faults our families are going to respond in one of two ways: in turn become those same characteristics with each other or retreat and withdraw thinking they cannot please us. I know I do not want this in my home. Therefore, you and I need to strive to be thermostats (constant) rather than thermometers (changing based on emotions). We want our homes to be a safe, welcoming environment, instead of a place of harsh words and criticism.
- “Let go of the deception of perfection” (pg. 116)
I do not know why we so often fall into thinking that everything needs to be perfect – perfectly clean home, not one item out of place, laundry always done, kids neat and clean and gourmet meal on the table every night. Striving to achieve the unattainable will leave our families and us stressed, uncomfortable and resentful. Instead, we need to learn to let go of perfection and embrace our families and ourselves with our imperfections. Just like Karen pointed out, “Shoes strewn about means you have children who can walk. Mud-spattered uniforms means you have children who can run, jump, and kick. Homework papers left on the dining-room table means your kinds have a functioning mind and are able to learn, absorb, and live quality lives” (pg. 124).
Yes, on any given day you can find toys on the floor, shoes scattered by the door, fingerprints on mirrors and laundry that needs to be done. But our house is a place where we feel comfortable and can relax. This is not to say that chores are not done, but it is all kept in perspective.
Take some time to read through the questions and then respond to them in the comment section of the blog, on the facebook group or in your journal. I am looking forward to see how God is working in your life through this study.
- Which reflection verse spoke the most to you this week? How were you able to apply it to your life?
“But we behaved gently when we were among you, like a devoted mother nursing and cherishing her own children. So, being thus tenderly and affectionately desirous of you, we continued to share with you not only God’s good news (the Gospel) but also our own lives as well, for you had become so very dear to us.” ~ 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8 AMP
“She watches over the activities of her household.” ~ Proverbs 31:27 HCB
2. Are you a thermostat or a thermometer? What steps are you going to take this week to set the tone in your home?
- How did this chapter speak to you? How are you going to put that into action in your home?
- What is one thing you will take away from Week 3?
Congratulations! You have made it through another week of the study and are one step closer to letting go and walking in faith.
Have a wonderful weekend!