Apr 26

SLL Week 3, Day 5 ~ Take Away and Give Away

This is what the Sovereign Lord, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it. Isaiah 30:15

But you would have none of it…

This is the part we always want to leave off. Myself included. It doesn’t seem very encouraging or something we really want to include on a Pinterest pin. It’s gritty. A little too real. It might make us uncomfortable. But it’s there for a reason. And as we close up our week I want to take a look at this last part of Isaiah 30:15.

To have something.

It’s different than just seeing something. To have something you have to actually choose to pick it up. To take it.

But the Isrealites didn’t want to take it. They didn’t want to listen to what God had to say to them. It didn’t make sense. He was asking them to stay and be still when it made sense to run away. There was a battle impending and the enemy seemed overwhelming. There was no way they could win within their own devices and so they were left with a decision. Be still…trust in the Lord…have confidence in Him, or, trust in themselves.

So what did they do? The next few verses tell us…

You said, ‘No, we will flee on horses. Therefore you will flee! You said, ‘We will ride off on swift horses.’ Therefore your pursuers will be swift! Isaiah 30:16

Horses. And not just any horses, swift horses, but still horses. The Isrealites choose to give into their fear. To choose confidence in themselves over what the Lord was asking them to do. To hop on some horses. Again…it sounds silly! Stay and let God protect me…or try and run away on horse. You would think it would be a no brainer to stick with GOD! The God who parted the Red Sea and set the Isrealites free from captivity. But no…pride got in the way.

And so it gets in the way with all of us too. HE offers us peace. Freedom from stress. Rest and the chance to be confident in Him. Confident that He will take care of things no matter what. And instead we often choose to stress ourselves out, bring the silent killer in a bit closer as we try to take care of it all, and simply place the Lord’s promises on the backburner.

You would have none of it…

Convicting message? Yes. Tough message? Yes. True message? For me…yes. And maybe for you too.

But with God, conviction is never the end of the story. Immediately after the Isrealites choose self-reliance we see this verse:

Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion.For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him! Isaiah 30:18

The Lord longs to be gracious to you. He doesn’t want you to be stressed out, burned out, worked out (except the good kind of work out!), overly tired, and given over to the silent killer. He longs to show you compassion. You don’t have to choose to have none of it. You can have some of it! You can HAVE all of it!

So what is in the way? In the comment section let’s share and encourage each other. What is keeping you from laying down self-reliance, getting off your escape horse, and picking up what the Lord has for you? He offers you salvation, rest, and strength. Freedom from stress. Will you have it?

And before I forget, thank you all so much for commenting throughout the week! The winner of the necklace from The Rusted Chain is Debbie who commented on April 25th at 5:56 AM on the Blog Hop Post. Debbie you can email me at stephkevinryan@hotmail.com with your address and we will get your necklace mailed out!

Any verse mappers out there? Check out Gena Christofferson’s verse map of this week’s reflection verse.

Verse Mapping Gena Group Five-0

On the back of her card, she has a list of verses that cross reference the words “quietness” and “rest.” This is OBS in action and that’s what it’s all about! Bringing God’s Word into your real life! If you’ve been verse mapping, send us your pictures. We might even share it here. Email pics to MelissaTaylorQuestions@gmail.com. Thank you Gena for sharing your verse mapping with us today. We love it!

Don’t forget to come back tomorrow to share your prayer requests and praises! I have so very much enjoyed spending time with you all this week. It has been an honor! And as I go I want to leave you with this song…one of my favorites!

Love,

Stephanie Clayton

 

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Melissa

Comments

  1. I think it is easier for me to trust in myself because i know what i plan to do and do it right away. I can’t see the big picture and what God has in mind, what if He answers in a way i don’t like, what if He makes me wait or what if He say no!! I know God’s plans for me are so much better and He is all knowing and has all the right answers for me, it’s just that i can’t see His plans for me. I have to trust and have faith. I recently took a huge step of faith. With my disability i don’t even receive enough to pay my bills and i haven’t been tithing because i need every penny i have just to get by. I decided this month i would put a certain amount of money in the offering at church whether i can afford it of not and trust God that i will have enough to pay all my bills on time. This is really scary for me but i’m trying.
    Philippians 4:19 Good News Translation (GNT)
    And with all his abundant wealth through Christ Jesus, my God will supply all your needs.

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      Oh, diki, your post touched my heart this morning!! I’m praying that the LORD will bless you because of Your obedience to Him. <3

      • Diki -I so related to your post and hope you are feeling okay. i am on disability too and have struggled with tithing… God always provides! You will get a reduced amount due on a bill, a check you weren’t expecting, buy something and find out it is on sale, it goes on and on. God is always faithful! Have a blessed weekend!

  2. What is it that keeps me from getting off my “swift horse”? P-R-I-D-E! Thinking that if I slow down and don’t get this or that done, take care of this or that person, this or that situation – no one else will…. and, well, the earth may just stop spinning! It’s nothing but pride that makes me think everything is up to me….

    And the compassion God shows me? Letting me fail at trying to do it all…. sometimes miserably so…. in order that I might turn to Him, lean on Him, *REST* in Him. A painful lesson, but one I seem to need frequently.

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      I’m so thankful for God’s compassion. Praying you’ll continue to rest in Him, B.

      But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness. Psalm 86:15

    • Dar Floyd says:

      Living, Loving and Learning
      Pride is definetly one of mine as you will see below.
      Sorry it is soooo long. Knew it was very long but didn’t
      know that long until I read it back after I submitted.
      May we both lean on God and let Him take our pride away.
      I like your fb emblem? living. loving, learning.

  3. I think for me it is just hard to trust. I have not had good experience trusting people over the years to the people I should be able to trust. It is hard to give that up to someone I can’t see. I know he gives us freedom from stress if we just stop and take what he gives us to carry on, but I guess I am afraid it won’t work and I will be disappointed again.

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      Oh, Tanya, I am right there with you, girl!! Trust was so hard for me because I grew up not trusting anyone. When I finally realized how God had been there for me all along, it was much easier for me to trust Him in all aspects of my life.

      Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
      in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
      Proverbs 3:5-6

    • Tanya…..your words echo my own.

      • I too have trouble trusting and giving it all to someone whom I can not actually “see.” At times it is even hard to pray to a God that I can’t physically see or touch. It may sound silly but its true.

    • kim in ma says:

      So true, Tanya. I have some people who are very close to me that I feel as though I can’t trust a thing they say because they have lied to me in the past about real things. I totally understand where you’re coming from. Someone actually tore our family apart through lies. But that’s why Jesus is different. He will never fail or let us down. Believe me, I know it’s hard to trust that things will work out sometimes, and I am SO guilty of that myself. God has come through in amazing ways in my life in the past, so it should be easy for me to trust Him, but our very nature is to try to do things our way. I will pray that God will help you (and ME) trust totally in Him, because man will ALWAYS let us down, but Jesus never will!

  4. I tend to think that God gave me the wisdom to deal with this or that and, if I need Him, well THEN I will go to Him. I don’t stop first and ask His direction. I just jump in and handle it and then talk to Him when I mess it up or if it doesn’t work out the way I want it to. God is dealing with me to stop and talk to Him first on EVERYTHING, even the little things.

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      Thankful for this study for you, Marlene, and the lessons God is teaching you through it. I’m so thankful for what He is teaching me, too. 😀

  5. The only thing in the way of my laying all in God’s hands is myself. My self that I deem multi-tasker of the year (ha ha). But honestly, this week, I have stopped from handling a situation and asked God to please place it in his hands. The situation DID NOT cause me stress this week and a beautiful peace has comforted me. Thank you my LOVING God! I am getting the hang of placing things in God’s hands for guidance as to how I should tackle whatever the situation. It is SO VERY wonderful to know he is there for me. I LOVE YOU GOD!

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      AMEN!!! I love this, Linda!! It IS wonderful to know that God is there for us!! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

  6. For me- I just get lazy and complacent…one day goes by without leaning on God or reading scripture, or going to church…then it becomes two and three… and so forth – and I full cruddier and cruddier- angrier, bitter, depressed, STRESSED. There have been some stressful occurances in my household this week but they did not stress me out- it was weird!! I am lovin’ it! I love the blog, my fb group, my notecards full of scripture on my desk, flipping through my assortment of bibles to find what I am looking for, the tool biblos.org that a friend introduced me to when I mentioned verse mapping on fb, my daily ongoing conversations with God!! I am so thankful God led me back to OBS!!

    • Pat (OBS small group leader) says:

      I love it that we have accountability here at OBS with other Christian ladies!! I’m so glad you’re having a great week and finding joy through this study. <3

  7. Tracie B says:

    I tend to always take the “big things” to God, but the daily stressors I tend to try to handle myself….until it’s too late and I’ve yelled at my kids, or been short with my husband, or consoled myself with food….then I feel guilty and turn to God (maybe) :). I’m praying for the Lord to change me, that I go to Him first with ALL things….I believe He can handle it!

    Thanks, Stephanie! Great job this week.

    • I love this comment, I am the same way – especially consoling myself with food!!! :) Praying the Lord will help you go to him first with all things!!! Have a blessed day!!! :)

  8. Just as Linda G said above, “I am a multi-tasker” that is me too.. maybe it is the name LOL! anyways, I think I can do it all and all by myself all too often.. I am afraid to let it be in God’s hands because that requires pateince and it may not be done in my timing.. I got to get things done & in my time… I stress myself out because I put soooo much on myself.. I complain too that I have so much on my plate, I feel so overwhelmed most of the time, I feel so alone and desperate to control what seems to be spinning my world around…. Yesterday, wiht my book right by my side, I am happy to say that after an upsetting phone call which woould have normally put me into “take care of it” /”find some way to help” mode.. I instead turned to God and prayed about it FIRST!! .. My horse did not ride off but stayed in prayer :) I feel good about it! at peace & it is wonderful.. situation is still there but I can handle it differently.. Now just to keep this pattern up

  9. Wow. Stephanie, like you, I always left off that last section of that verse… Glad you pointed it out today so that we can grow by the challenge of the Holy Spirit. Because HE loves and is gracious to us, He disciplines us! :)

  10. I could relate to so much above, multitasking, pleasing too many ppl at once, stretching myself too thin, but then God reminds me hey calm down and still your busy mind ! And then im able to accept all he has to give

  11. Pride, desire to see instant results, my way over anyone else’s including God. This study has made me see the darkness of my heart and how much of it that has not been following after Him but carving out my own way. Motherhood can leave me feeling like I have no control over situations and I see now that instead of learning to yield that control to Him, I have been desperately grasping for a thread of it somewhere in my life. Lord save me from myself.

  12. Thank you for a great message! I struggled with a stressful situation yesterday and then spent a good chunk of time beating myself up for not turning to God but instead relying on my own need for control. I am so thankful that God forgives and longs to be gracious to me….I would be in big trouble if hr didn’t. 😉 I also want to thank you for sharing the song. I haven’t heard of them and plan to add them to my Pandora account! :)

  13. In the past I never read the rest of the verse…this week it stood out to me like a sore thumb! A throbbing, red, painful (convicting) site thumb! :) God is SO good & His timing perfect b/c this is obviously the season for me to read it (& by His grace & power be changed by it)! Being still, resting & waiting are not easy or natural fr me b/c I fear I will become lazy & complacent. I struggle with knowing what is my part vs His part. I am in a season now of transition. I left a position, salary etc (following the lead & desire of my hubby) and I’m in a waiting period. It’s hard to wait but God has confirmed it several times through others & His word for me to wait. Need prayer about being still & waiting and learning what my part is vs His. Hope this make sense. I want His will vs mine. Know His is best. I guess this is all part of eradicating the “old self” :)
    God bless y’all!

  14. Jennifer says:

    I think, for me at least, the reality of our society is that your value is in your accomplishments, which makes it seem the right thing is to “do do do” rather than wait and pray for clear direction, and I have crashed and burned in depression trying to fix what I was incapable of fixing because my mindset told me that I could fix it, and that fixing it was my responsibility. Praise God, He allowed these painful times to bring me to a place where looking for His guidance moment to moment happens more and more (especially at work and in stressful situations at home) – not that it happens anywhere near as often as it should! :)

    I will also share fear – fear of what God would have me do and of what God would speak to me – fear causes me to shut down what I know would be a breath-taking source of love and strength, and I grieve for that. I’m grateful Melissa directs us to go to God, because I so very rarely do it on my own, and I’m always blessed by the love He showers on me. I guess that one comes right back to a lack of trust because of pain from childhood and fear of my distant human father, and I am so grateful that through my circumstances He has given me the opportunity to daily rely on Him more often and see His faithfulness, which makes it a little bit easier to trust Him more.

    I have been strongly influenced by what happened and how I chose to protect myself growing up, but, praise God, I don’t have to stay stuck there. He is so faithful to answer my prayer of “change me and guide me” every time I answer. I don’t ask for wisdom anymore – I just want to go in the direction He points and do what He tells me to do! :)

    Much love,
    Jennifer

  15. I had a very stressful situation pop up at work this week. I keep saying read some of the stress busting scripture right quick, but instead I kept reading the email I was being bombarded with and worrying about the impression I was giving on my new job. By the end of the day it had me wondering if I really like what I do for a living. I was thankful, however, that I ended up having a fun evening at home with the family.

  16. Martha F. says:

    I admit I am a victim of my own self-reliance. I don’t want to relinquish control and let go BUT I am ready to

  17. Leslie Richards says:

    Great message! It hit home with me and made me ask myself why don’t I trust more? And myself told me it was FEAR… Why would God help me and bless me? I have not always done things pleasing to the Lord, I fail him daily. So I guess I think I’m unworthy of the blessings he can bestow on me.

    • Paige Ward says:

      I have the same problem.

    • Of course we are unworthy! That’s what makes God so awesome! He makes us worthy through His son. For no other reason than because He loves us. He loved us with the FULLNESS of His love the moment we accept Him. We can’t earn more of His love nor lose love because we mess up. He loves us fully and offers us blessings with no strings attached :)

  18. Paige Ward says:

    Trust, plain and simple, is what is in the way for me. We have been waiting a long time for an answer to a prayer, and as a result of the wait I’ve stopped believing that God is hearing me or that He will answer. (Satan’s lies.) God is saying, “wait on me.” I want to choose to wait because what He has is so much better than what I think is right. Isaiah 30:23-26

    These are some of the verses that came to mind as I was verse mapping.
    Isaiah 30:21 – Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”
    Joel 2:25 – I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten – …
    Proverbs 3:5-6 – Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
    2 Corinthians 1:20 – For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through Him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.
    Philippians 1:6…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

    Will all these promises, how can I not believe? Jesus help my unbelief!

    • I love that you put these verses here, I wrote them down to reference! Thank you! Praying for an answer and blessings for you! :)

    • Awesome post Paige, I too have prayers unanswered and am not a good “waiter”
      thanks for your post and verses. God bless you!!!

      • thank you for adding the extra verses – I am adding them to my list for the week!! I am not good with having patience either-

  19. Christine says:

    I think what is keeping me from accepting God’s peace is fear of the unknown. I know His promises are good and true, but for some reason, holding on and fretting gives me a sense of control. I guess I’m afraid to give up control.

    • wow great insight, I feel that way too, never thought of it as not wanting to give up control, but that is it for sure!!! Thanks Christine!! God Bless you!!

    • Christine –
      I love your sense of control – holding on and fretting!!!! I do the same thing. I can go over a conversation in my head a hundred times. And fear of the unknown is scary for everyone. We are all the same. I see bits of me in every one of these comments. That’s what makes this bible study so great. I know God is with me. I know it. I strive to live it though. Am making progress but it’s slow. but God never said we would be perfect.

  20. I once heard an interview with a famous musician song writer who had been treated for anxiety, depression, etc. the interviewer assumed he had conquered his problems through treatment & gone on in life to become the amazing artist he is. The artist scoffed & said, “No! Every morning I wake up & there is this sort of floating anxiety & it attaches itself to something.” That is me…soon as I am over some thing causing me high anxiety I transfer it to the next thing *sigh*… God is working on it with me & I am having big & small victories but ever so slowly, like a vine wrapped around a tree choking it, but I am getting untangled. What a trap stress/anxiety is!! Who knew?

  21. Christine says:

    I have determined the reason that I run is because I do not know how to trust fully…I think I do then when the rubber meets the road I fear what God might have for me is not what I am comfortable with or think I need so I run instead. Of course when I do this I make a bigger mess of things and Praise God He is merciful and draws me back to Him…then shows me a depth of love that should break through that fear and it does for a time until I again start to question … I am tired of the cycle and it does seem like I am learning but Oh how slow the process…how frustrated I get with myself but I understand that my past hurts and pains have caused this and God is gently but persistently loving me out of my comfort into His peace once and for all. He is so Marvelous – so Good…I keep repeating Prob 3:5,6 – Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding (important) Acknowledge Him in all your ways and He WILL direct your paths….

  22. Lynn Graham says:

    the only way the Lord can have some of it is when I learn to slow down and not put so much on my agenda for the day, and then finding out I’m not getting it done. then it starts to create stress for me.

  23. D'Edra Jefferson says:

    I think that the thing that keeps me from having/accepting what God has to offer is that fact the I cannot give complete trust to anyone. I always have doubts in my mind about anything or anyone due to major hurts from my past that I felt were dealt to me. I was deceived in a major way by a very important person and that carries over into today. I want so badly to lay all of those doubts and fears down and allow God to have complete control but every single time I am on the verge of that, I hold onto it just a little bit. I can see within reach all of these blessings He wants to give but I just cannot give up that little bit in order to receive them.

  24. OH STEPHANIE!!! Convicting for sure! I am so good at getting so far and then….well, you know the story, hop on the horse and flee. I have been working extremely hard on this! Sometimes we go along with scripture and we take it so far, and we share it with the world and talk it up and then, lo and behold, we are not convicted enough – we can’t face what that scripture is telling us we need to do – so easy to take it half way….it’s the giving all and allowing our Father to direct us and lead us 100% – to give it all to him that we seem to not finish through with. Yesterday I felt the final nudge – quite a big PUSH that I have been ignoring for sometime – the need to take my ministry further and reach out thru writing to reach the young adults, the youth that are in the world today struggling and looking for love – to tell my story of how God was there when I didn’t know and how He guided and directed when I didn’t know….before I knew Him. He never allowed my path to stray….at any rate – I want to be at SheSpeaks – I want to learn how to reach the young and old alike….I want to write…God’s put it on my heart big and heavy – and now I’m so close to the conference time, I don’t have enough faith that I can raise the money to attend this late in the game……but I followed thru, I took the chance, I posted my scholarship letter (as hard as that was)…I told my vision….Because with Him I can do all things, all things can become to fruition – all it takes is faith the size of a mustard seed…..I am printing this blog and it’s going to be on the board by my desk so every day I can read it and remember, the scripture is awesome and full of promises, but it also requires us to carry through on our end – it’s our instruction manual – it’s meant for us too – we cannot flee when we don’t like how the end of a scripture reads……convicted. Yes. Thank you for another amazing blog!

  25. Fear is my enemy. I have battled it since 1997 when my brother was killed. It was an instant switch that went off in my person, and it has stood between me and full trust in the Lord since. I know it’s wrong, it’s sin, it’s from the evil one, but I haven’t seemed to be able to get a grip on it. I speak against it, out loud at times. I try to do all I know, but I need deliverance from the Lord because I WANT IT ALL! It is a fairytale to me to rest in the Lord for Him to take care of me.

  26. I was completely convicted by these words this morning. I’ve been ignoring the last part of that verse all week. Thank you, Stephanie, for your obedience to challenge us this morning. God is speaking to my heart here. You are a blessing!

  27. Pam Pitts says:

    Just this morning in the wee hours I was thinking about all I need to do today. I try to do everything I need to do every Friday, why?, because it allows me time to get done without rushing, without messing stuff up, and then I don’t feel the urge to do at work or to take time away from family time during the week. I can help Erin with homework if needed, go places with Mark if he wants to take his “mid-life” crisis Mustang for a drive (he calls it that, not me, just to clarify)!
    My sister and I had a misunderstanding yesterday, well I got my feathers ruffled, she probably has no idea, but she was curt with me about the family pictures and anyways I was flustered because it had to do with information she sent to the whole family a few months ago, so my response to her was “that doesn’t mean I remember or understood it at the time TMI (too much information) overload lately”! I don’t mean to sound like I’m whining, I’m really not and I’m complaining either but I just have a lot on my plate, mainly trying to get Erin into college, no one seems to care to help and Erin doesn’t understand a lot of it so who does she ask and depend on? Mama! Me!
    So as I was praying I remembered I prayed this same prayer about 4-6 months ago and I remembered how smoothly everything went, I was praying Lord help me to understand all the financial terminology that I have to deal with to get Erin signed up! It worked before and I believe God is going to see me through again!!!
    When I did all this 10+/- years ago for myself, the guy walked me through every step! So I didn’t have to worry about understanding all the notes, etc…
    Today I choose joy, I choose to lean on the everylasting arms that’ve gotten me this far.
    Lord I need You today, so much, You know what’s on my heart, mind, and to do list today, plus now I have to stop at some point and take stuff to Erin to school that she just called about. I don’t know how I’m going to get it all done. I pray You’ll go with us to Mom’s doctor appt later this afternoon and I’m believing for a Good Report! Thank You so much for getting me through the other days this week when I felt inadequate and wanted to hide under my desk! Thank you that Mark loves and puts up with me and knows just the right words to say when I need comforting. I thank You for all my blessings, in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.

  28. kim in ma says:

    I know this is just a random question, but how do you get an icon picture? Some have nice little pictures near their names, and the rest of us have mr. white silhouette…

    • Kim in ma: I was wondering the same thing! Hopefully someone replies :-) until then I too will have “mr. white silhouette!” Be blessed!

  29. I am struggling with learning to verse mapping. this is a wonderful example. I am trying to share with my bible study group also.

  30. I would say “my horse” is trust and control. Although, I know that control is just an illusion, I still think that I have it in my grasp. I should know better by now. I have had to put my life on hold due to chronic illness, that was not in my control. I would not have chosen this life myself, but instead God choose it for me. I have to learn that no matter what God is in control of all circumstances. I have been like the Isrealites in the fact that God has rescued me many times, He has been faithful in so many circumstances that were out of my control, but yet I don’t trust Him fully, but yet He is so gracious to scoop me up everytime I fall. Falling is hard, and there are many lessons to be learned when you are smack dab on the floor, but I have found God more in these times, than when my head was in the clouds and everything was happy and sunny. I just have to trust that His ways and His plans are better than mine and quit trying to do His job!

  31. Great message today, and one I definately needed to hear. I too found the last part of the verse uncomfortable and wanted to leave it out. When it comes to trusting and giving it all over to the Lord, I often let fear stop me. It does seem completely silly when I stop and really think about it in the terms written out on today’s blog, and yet I still, like the Isrealites, often choose my own way over God’s. When I stop and question, why the fear, I realize that pride does play a small part in some instances, but mostly it’s the fear of the unknown and wanting to control the outcome of things. Anytime I don’t know or can’t see the outcome of something, I become fearful, and fear of the unknown tends to lead me to taking control…all of which is very silly considering I should need to know is God, and that no matter what He he’s going to do what’s best…so I guess trust plays a role as well. When I look back on the times that I have followed the Lord rather than my own way, in those times, I was focused on trusting Him, rather than any fear that I may have felt, and in that focus there was peace. I’m not saying the fear was gone, but the peace overrode it. I think it’s time to pull out my trusty Proverbs 3:5-6 index card again!

  32. Fear. It always is there for me – silently sometimes; subtle – but always present. Adult son addicted to meth would seem to be the obvious source of fear (for his life) but this study is helping to uncover the deeper rooted sources. God requires complete surrender; giving over of all expectation. A process, for sure. His grace is taking on new meaning each day as He is helping me to see what I have and not what I have not.

  33. I think I’m pretty good about knowing when to say No, and not being afraid to ask for help. But … when people say No to my requests for their help and it’s something I believe God has allowed me to do, I’ll jump in. Still trying to figure out how to work on plan C when A & B don’t work out, rather than just getting things done myself. I don’t consider myself a workaholic and am good about scheduling pockets and seasons of rest. But that doesn’t mean there’s not a fair amount of stress in the middle … between those restful times!

    I know years ago I read Archibald Hart’s book, “The Hidden Link Between Stress and Adrenaline” and he described the need for scheduled downtime. Much like a rubber band that is constantly stretched, we need to flex and give pause or else we will break! For more from him … http://www.christianbook.com/hidden-link-between-adrenaline-and-stress/archibald-hart/9780849936906/pd/3690X?item_code=WW&netp_id=100389&event=PPCSRC&view=details

  34. PRIDE is what is getting in my way. I keep trying to do everything myself. Thank you for this week and this study. It is forcing me to get beyond looking and talking about the “what” is stressing me out and get to the “do” to stop it. Ultimately the do is to get on my knees before the the ultimate Stress Reliever, Our Heavenly Father.

  35. Michelle says:

    My pride and wanting to always be right is what is in the way for me. God is definitely dealing with me on this! I am a doer and I lack patience. If something needs to be done, I do it. I don’t wait around for someone else. That is okay if it involves doing laundry. That is NOT okay when the one whom I should be waiting on is The Lord. He is so gentle when he shows me that I am wrong and that I do need to wait on him. I’m learning to throw my pride away and to wait on Him.

  36. I had felt the Lord calling me to become a nurse for a few years now. First I got excited then I started to make excuses about how it was too hard, how I could not pass the cadaver work… finally I did enroll. With the Lord’s grace I passed the cadaver exams. Then I got too much of my self in the head and decided to take it had no full steam… does it smell like horses to you? Yes, my way of running off on horses is to plan it all myself. You see my soon to be 13 year old son has been struggling in the middle school and the Lord called us to pull him out and home school (while my other 2 are to remain in public school for now). So the Lord allowed a health issue to flare up to put a stop to my horse escape, bring humility to me and turn my focus to Him. The chronic illness made me unable to pursue my grand plan and turned my attention to the One who is my Healer, who makes the plans for my future (and my son’s future) and who gives me the strength to follow HIS plan. :)

  37. I guess I am trying to be still and HEAR God. With my health, I am trying to be still and lay there and expecting him to answer right then. I have to wait patiently on The Lord and he will speak to me through his Word on what to do or I will sense his prodding. Anyone else have ways of listening to God for his answers?

  38. I believe if you looked up the word “control freak” in the dictionary, there would be a picture of me next to it. Do I think that I can do a better job than anyone else can? NO! It has become such a part of me I don’t even think of myself as this until really spending some time with the Lord one day a few years ago. I realized that I have done this all my life. I, desperate for a change in my life, needed an answer of WHY I do this. It was shown to me that I do this because I don’t TRUST…God or man!! Wow! What a UGLY revelation of myself! Because of my trust issue, I felt I HAD to do things the way I saw they needed to be done because I could not TRUST that anyone would 1) Do them correctly (the way I felt was right) 2) Do them on time 3) Keep the ball rolling so that the things that needed to be done next would comfortably fall in place 4) Forget they needed to be done; then I would have to “clean up” the mess and “stress” out getting it done at the last minute. When I looked at the whole scheme of things in the light of His Wisdom, I saw that I lived like this to protect myself and my “world” out of lack of trust, like I said before. If I took “care” of everything, I didn’t need to trust because I had already found out I could not trust. I found out I was full of deception and pride to think I could take care of everything in the first place. I really wasn’t doing it all along…all I was doing “was believing the lie” that I was in control of my life. I found out I was doing this also out of FEAR…fear of what might happen if I didn’t control, if I didn’t keep up this pattern of taking care of everyone and everything! I was the one to keep peace, at any cost! I needed my world to be at peace, even though I was never at peace keeping it that way. During that time with the Lord, He showed me I was my own “lord” and was doing a lousy job of it! He was my God, my Savior, but not my Lord. There was a choice I needed to make. Thankfully, I did! I chose Him for that job and relinquished my place to Him! Unfortunately, I did not kill that “horse” to run away on that day, and when I least expect it, “it” comes again for a quick ride around promising to take me away and make things better!! I need to constantly be aware of things that I put before my Lord that need to be done my way instead of His or instead of waiting for His to be done. This study is another one of His gracious loving ways of Him setting me free from some more “stressing” and “controlling”, so that I can trust Him and walk in His peace each day!!!

    • Debbie W. (OBS Group Leader) says:

      Linda such a powerful post. Like you we all have those horses that keep coming back and we just hope right back up on them. Praying with you asHe continues to graciously love on us and as we work on controlling our stress and what causes it. Hugs!

      • Thanks Debbie! We serve a mighty God that has all the answers we need to live a victorious life. Why do we insist on doing the same things over and over again…each time KNOWING the outcome!!

  39. I take time out every week to do some map versing. I change the synoyms, add my name in the verse, look at the verses just before and after, write out my feelings regarding the verse, anything that pops into my mind. That is what I work on right after I finish reading the chapter and answer the questions in the back of each chapter. But with map versing I usually spend about 3-4 days on that.

  40. Mary G. (OBS Group Leader) says:

    Definitely my “do it myself” mentality and attitude. Working on this!!
    I will keep working on it by continuing to step out in faith and follow God down the path he is leading me on. I still have trouble figuring out if I am on the RIGHT path sometimes though. That’s the difficult part for me. :)

    For we walk by faith, not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7 (NKJV)

    Congrats to Debbie for winning that necklace!!! Awesome!

  41. What a blessed week!! Last week was hard, with work, floods, bombings, etc-just plain stress of life!! But today, the sun is shining, exercised outside, birds are chirping, flowers are blooming!! God’s presence is with us all!! Have a great weekend!!

  42. I think for me trusting God in really hard situations is tough because I don’t have patience. I want it over now! When I can’t see progress or in my impatient frustration the progress isn’t happening fast enough, I think I could do better? I become allies with Eve in the garden…I think I know better. The temptation to dictate my world is more pleasing than to wait in patient confidence.
    You would think I have learned my lesson though (I have had many hard situations thrown my way the last 3 years)…I’m sure God looks down at me, head in His hands, shaking His head saying “girl- when you gonna get this right?”
    Why don’t I have the wear-with-all to grasp that He has the best in mind for me? His wisdom is better than just a smidgen of mine? The best mentor and wisdom-giver is there at my beck-in-call if I could only trust it and patiently wait for it.
    Trying to get this right:>)
    Julie

    • God is so patient with us and I believe Salvation takes a life time and we start new each morning, sometimes each minute 😉 I know what you are saying I am the same way. Hang in there and remind yourself of the memory verse… God Bless

  43. Heidi-girl says:

    I love that song by the way. As I was walking on my treadmill, reading the blog for today and praying, I was thinking how far God has led me and how He never gives up on us, we are the ones that tend to step back and forget how God is in control. The only way to stay on track is our daily walk with Him. God shows us mercy and love beyond what we can fathom and He is always there just waiting for us to give our stress, problems, etc. to Him.. What an awesome God we serve!

  44. Praying this is a good day… Often I have days that I struggle to get through. God is always teaching me to rest in Him and trust and not be a Type A anymore and I often forget and want everything fixed, done NOW not in His time…. God is so patient with us and never ceases to amaze me. He has given me such peace lately and I am so thankful for that. Thanks again for this study and God bless you all this weekend!

  45. TABITHA JONES says:

    Great message. I am one of those that acts on a situation and then when it doesn’t work out, then I turn to God. I really never realized I was like this until I read this so this is an eye opener for me. I know if I would turn it over to God it would work out a lot better. Pray that I can do better and be a better servant to God.

  46. Love your comments today! I sat down to check the blog and immediately got sucked in and couldn’t tear my self away!

    All of you are AWESOME!!! Thanks for your participation and input, it makes the study!

    And Stephanie, my awesome friend! Great job this week! Love the Bible lessons!

  47. I have enjoyed this week’s Chapter and lessons! Every week I DO feel a change :-) I think what is keeping me from laying down self-reliance is just that….putting self down and relying on God. Trusting in Him, leaning on Him. That would me “I” would have no control (which I know I don’t) of anything in my life. I def. have a fear of the unknown and sometimes I feel if I have “my hand” on things, maybe I can control how they work out. But reality, is I don’t know what tomorrow brings, but I DO know who holds tomorrow and need to rest in that. I am excited for the next chapter! See you then Ladies :-)

  48. I’m still new to this… Bible study in general, really trying to understand the scriptures, and what His word is telling me. In fact, listening for His direction and what He’s telling me is a gift I haven’t fully “opened.” Sometimes I just am not sure whether He’s instructing me to “rest” or commanding me to quit standing around and jump on that horse! Fear of making the wrong decision, not being able to actually tell if a problem is something I am supposed to control or release. I’m learning constant prayer… Now I need to learn to listen.

  49. Kathleen says:

    I get overwhelmed. I want to look at my own solutions or those who offer advice that mixes me up… so I don’t know what to do. I cry and get frustrated. I feel stuck… then I cry my Lord and I don’t even know what to say…. I have to lean on his promise that he will come along side and walk me through it… When overwhelmed by circumstances that bring great stress Jesus is along-side me. “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.” (Romans 8:26-27) – “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31) – “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.“ (Romans 8:37) He is the conqueror. I cannot be.

    • Thank you for speaking what is on your heart. I really felt what you were expressing about being stuck. What a great verses to help us through such times.

  50. Jill Daley says:

    For me to lay everything before God requires self-control. I have to recognize that He knows better than I, even though sometimes I think I know better. If only He would reach out hand from heaven and say that this is the way to go and I will guide you. But God doesn’t do that. We have to trust him and sometimes that is so hard to do.