Jun 26

SLL Week 12, Day 3~ Real Life

Around here we are all about, Real Hope for Real Life. What exactly does that mean?

  • It means you can be yourself.
  • You can trust us here.
  • We aren’t going to sugar coat or pretend.
  • We aren’t going to be fake. There’s enough of that in the world already!
  • And we aren’t going to lead you down a path that has a dead end.
  • We understand that life has its ups and downs. And we can talk about the truth of it all.
  • It means that in this community your are welcomed, loved, and appreciated…where you are, for who you are, and how you are.

The NIV Real Life Devotional Bible for Women was written for women like us. Let me tell you why~

If you can’t see the video above, click here to view directly on You Tube.

*This week’s Blog Hop Topics can be found in this post.
*This week’s prize package (A Real Life Devotional Bible, 2 Yes to God books, and a $15 giftcard to Starbucks) will be awarded on Friday. Leave a comment for your chance to win!

Thanks for joining me today! Hope you are having a dynamic week! :)



  1. This study and our group has been such a blessind to me. It has been a very rewarding experience! I love to read all the prayer request because you see we all experiencing the same life and the praises and prayers from others is so uplifting.

  2. Amber Oatman (OBS leader) says:

    REAL is the one word I would use to describe OBS.

    Real Hope
    Real Life
    Real Women
    Real Application
    Real Prayer
    Real Relationship
    And Real = Authentic Leadership

    OBS and the women of OBS have literally changed my life and fueled my desires and dreams in ministry <3

  3. Renee D. says:

    When I read the first sentence “real hope for rea life” that really touched my heart. It is SO true like you said, we have enough to deal with in our lives, we need somewhere we can be honest & truthful, yet have that accountability as well. Someone to steer us straight and headed on the right path…thank you OBS for doing this for us all! May you all be blessed :-)

  4. Lee Roberts says:

    Thanks so much to all the ladies that lead us through this study. I am prying now for God to lead me to the next phase of my life. I am looking for a job and I wonder where God is leading me to next. I applied for an assistant director of a Christian camp here on the lake at Tyler. I am hoping that it is where he wants me next. I have worked as staff at a Christian camp before and it really is an area where my heart is.

  5. Denise Davis Kamppi says:

    When I think of P31 and the studys. My hopes are real and my life issues are real. And here everyone is real. I’m not alone, we are all here for the Lord number # 1 and we can praise together and pray together not one person here is going to judge you, hurt you. What I find is confidence to be me and the encouragement to push through to be a more faithful server to the Lord. It don’t get any more real than that.
    <3 u all

  6. I am just starting chapter 7 but will not give up. i would love to win this bible. i truly love these studies so much , it has and does truly gets me more closer to jesus . i have seen a change in my christian life sense i have been doing these studies . i truly love the ladies in the small group they truly encourge me alot. thank u so much for this studies. i have seen my self a little less stress so far in this study. i see my self truly trying not to be so stressed around my daughter that she is out of school . it has been hard for me to keep my calm with her at times but i am truly trying and i have truly have learn to read the bible more and more with these studies and pray which I Amit i have trouble at times doing is praying. i know i shouldn”t be . i truly need prayers for that. thank u all for everything u do and always do . god bless you all

  7. TABITHA JONES says:

    I love this OBS it has changed my life. I am a pastors wife and this study has helped me learn things that I can help in the ministry. I would love to win this bible and have it work with in my ministry. I want to thank all the ladies that make these studies possible.

  8. Myrtle Cash says:

    I am so thankful my daughter Dawn Whitmore signed me up for this study it is one the Best things she has done for me. I would like to Thank all of the OBS SISTERS for their prayers & concerns for me during my recent surgery. It has really helped me so much also I love reading the Bible !! Hint Hint Really THANKS &LLOVE you all <<<3

  9. Myrtle Cash says:

    I’m being Real here I dislike people waiting on me I’m use to taking care of others.But there’s hope for me cause I have been listening to God. Be still & let God. This is a Big thing for me so I hope everyone keeps praying for cause your prayers & reading the Bible has gi
    ven me hope & peace . Yes I do need to take care of myself to take care of others

  10. Love this OBS ! My life has changed and I continue to work on trusting God in all circumstances.God is my peace and I thank Him everyday for Him in my life.

  11. ConnieH says:

    I would love to win this week’s prize giveaway. Especially the two books for the upcoming study. That way I could have one, and invite someone to do the study along with me! Thanks for all you do, and for this opportunity to win.


  12. Crystal says:

    Dear Melissa,

    I think it was on Monday’s video that I could see the Bible that you were using, and it looked like the NIV Real Life Devotional Bible for Women in leather. Is a leather version coming out soon?

    Inquiring minds want to know :)

  13. Polly Schneider says:

    I just finished the book and I must say, it was inspiring. There is so much I could quote. But I’ll share this on page 228. “Keeping our hearts in step with Jesus is the number one key to the stress -less life. We can not do this life on our own, and He never intended for us to in the first place.”
    Now that I ‘m done I have a lot of stress busting scriptures in my journal that I can read whenever I fell stressed. If you haven’t written them in a journal I suggest that you do. They are all so encouraging and will be a great help when the stress comes and we all know it will. God bless all our OBS ladies.

    iss this study
    and one of my fears is that I will forget what I learned. But if I keepthe

    • Polly Schneider says:

      Sorry about that last part. I got messed up. I ‘ll finish it here. I will miss this study and our fellowship and one of my fears is that I will forget what I learned. But if I keep my eyes on the Lord I can overcome. :)

  14. Julia Lothamer says:

    I just tried to buy this from our local Vineyard store and they were all out! Must be great!!! Would love to win!

  15. Rebecca says:

    I really enjoyed this study and the encouragement from the ladies in it. Even though I am going through a stressful time right now I am still trying to find God’s peace in it. I still am praying for him to show me what my calling is and to calm the fears I have right now about the future.

    • Kristen B (OBS team) says:


      I can totally relate to this! I too struggle with my calling and what the future holds for me. I do not have any of the answers except to say keep reading the bible and praying. God will show you in His time!

      Blessings and Hugs,

  16. Courtney says:

    I have enjoyed every minute of this OBS! I feel like I’ve gained an infinite amount of sisters! (Which is great because I don’t have any sisters! Just 3 older brothers.) this study has taught me how to totally let go and totally trust God. After all,He knows me better than myself and knows what I need before I need it!i can’t say it enough how much I love, admire, and grateful for P31 Ministry! God bless each of you, and I’m looking forward to the next OBS!

  17. CarolAnne says:

    Thank you for the behind-the-scenes look! xo

  18. Justine Wickel says:

    Just received my signed copy of What Happens When Women Say Yes to God. I’m anxious to start the online Bible study at the end of July. (& I would absolutely LOVE to win a copy of the Real Life Devotional Bible – wink wink)

  19. I feelsoblessed to have such wonderful women for these Bible studies. I amready to start the next one and the one over that 4 week gap.l I would miss all the interactioin if I was not here. Wonderful ladies and great friendships that I can rely upon.

  20. Sherri Jackson says:

    Real hope for a real life…hope is one of my fav positive words and this study has really helped me stand back and see my busyness and how it affects my health as well as my relationships….

  21. Thank you! While I don’t feel I have a stressed life, I know God’s word is always a good thing to read, understand and acknowledge any chance you can get. It seems I did have a friend that was having a really rough time and I was able to take some of the study and share with her. While she didn’t comment to me on it, I pray that it helped her find peace. That is the reason I wanted to go ahead and do the study because Zi know Zi can still learn from it, pass it on or use it in the future. Plus every time I read the chapters it warms my heart and always puts a smile on my face and peace in my heart!

  22. I reeeeeally want one of those Bibles!!!

    I have enjoyed this study. This was my 2nd OBS, and my 1st FB Small Group. I have only participated in two studies but I have been following for 2 years now. Love the devotions. I’ve read along and stopped in too from time to time, but only really dug in deep on two studies.

    I haven’t had any major prayer requests yet but my husband and I have been on a rocky path for two years. Some days are good days & some are really bad days. The past 3 or 4 nights have be rough, and tonight (just a few minutes ago) it exploded. He left. Which he does like every single time which really hurts me even more. My heart is broken but then gets shattered over & over, and to me, him walking out just reemphasizes the negative thoughts & feelings. I can’t think of the word- the thoughts & feelings I have, when he walks out, it just proves those thoughts were accurate. And it’s hard to undo it. :-/ And I have a dr appt tomorrow (one of those) & I’m always very nervous & anxious & embarrassed to go. Needing prayers!

    • Melanie says:

      Praying for you. I know your frustration without knowing the details. I have similar issues. My husband leaves every time things gets rough ( that’s putting it nicely). I pray that my marriage can survive. And pray that yours does too. The devil gets in and causes so much havoc. Prayer is one way to fight him. Keep praying.

      • Thank you Melanie. I will pray for you too. That us just one area I was peace & happiness. To feel loved- every day. I want to feel wanted, needed, & special- important and worthy. Ugh. I know go to God, read the scriptures, pray, let God be my lover- but I just want my husband to be a loving, Godly husband that I need here on this earth & share a house, and life with. I don’t want to be miserable while I’m here, you know? It seems like I pray & pray and nothing changes.

        • Elaine Ledlow says:

          Emily, You are a special and important person and you say that you pray and pray but nothing changes. In listening to your posts I must tell you that I see change in you! You are coming and asking for help and prayers and you are praying. Remember it is not your timing but God’s and as you complete this trial you will find your self stronger and closer to God than you even realize. I am asking that God show you that he hears your prayers and that he knows your needs. Sometimes when we are in the middle of an issue or trial we cant see the changes and we become discouraged. Something like you cant see an individual tree for the forest. I am asking God to send the Holy Spirit to touch your husband and soften his heart and that you are able to restore your relationship with him and lead him to the Father! Hang in there my sweet sister. We are all praying with and for you! God Bless You!

          • Elaine Ledlow says:

            In one of the last two studies, I am not certain which one the author talks about when things get tough just start saying Jesus’ name over and over. When you do this you are closing the cracks that can let the enemy in. When he hears Jesus we are putting him on the run! Even though you cant change all the circumstances you can ask Jesus to come in and help. As I say his name over and over I can feel a peace and strength coming in and my fears and doubts leaving. The circumstances are still there but as we have learned from Tracie the changes are within us! Praying for you both.

          • Thank you Elaine! Your prayers & encouragement mean so much! I’m going to use your tip… JesusJesusJesusJesusJesusJesus

    • Bree (OBS Facebook Leader) says:

      Prayers are being said for you, Emily and Melanie.

  23. Nancy Dye says:

    This OBS has helped me during a very difficult time. I’ve received a breast cancer diagnosis, had a double mastectomy, and am now going through reconstruction since we started. The best advice I can offer to anyone who gets this diagnosis is to make sure that if you, a relative, or friend is choosing a lumpectomy or lateral mastectomy over a bilateral mastectomy, make sure you/they know the recurrence rate of cancer (w/o a bilateral mastectomy) and the long term effects of radiation. I continue hearing of women who have a lumpectomy, radiation, and the cancer returns. Doctors don’t want to influence and anyone has to make their own personal choice but knowledge is power. God led me to wonderful doctors and my healing is truly blessed. If cancer doesn’t cause stress, nothing does (yes, I have children and a full-time job). OBS and the book have helped me stay as unstressed as possible and strong.

  24. Melanie says:

    I love this study and can’t wait for the next one to start. This is my first study and I have loved every minute of it. I know this may sound selfish but as I read everyone’s comments I am glad to know I am not the only one that has family, work, finances,marriage, and so on. I am encouraged by reading how despite the stress that others have they have turned things over to God.
    I have failed miserably in turning things over to God. I don’t let go easily. I find I try to fix things myself. I know that if I spend more time in prayer and study that my stress could be less.
    This study has been wonderful and I have learned so much. Thanks for all the wonderful ladies who work so hard to make this happen.

  25. Charletta Rupert says:

    A true Blessing to my life is this ministry and all of your wonderful staff. I am so glad God directed me to your website. You truly are ANGELS in my life. :)

  26. Truly blessed from this study!!

  27. This was my first online bible study and was such a blessing to me. I could read this book a again and again. Although I still let stress get to me from time to time it’s not as bad. I have truly tried my best to lean on Jesus. He has healed me of anxiety and have such a peace in my life even though my family and I have been going through some very difficult times. I am to a Martha. I long to be a Mary but I let busyness and even when I am not so busy I still dont spend that time with Jesus. I am thankful he loves me no matter what but I know my life would be so much sweeter to spend intimate time with him. Thank you for all the wisdom you al have shared through this study. I look forward to the next one. God bless you all!

  28. I have finished reading the book and answered all of the reflection questions. From this point on I applying all I have learned so I can continue on with a stressed-less life.

  29. I also want to express how happy I am to be in this study. It has profoundly changed the way I believe. It has come more alive now and I am enjoying that so much! I have been reading the devotions of Proverbs 31 since years now and they are always somethng I am.looking forward to. These devotions were the beginning of my walknin real faith. Through the devotions I came to books that I normally would not have noticed. Through the devotions I got to learn about othwr christian woman in equal every day life and circumstances. What made it so attractive to me was the absolute honesty in which everything was written. For me it was an eye opener that as a christian you really do not have to be perfect. The woman that write these devotions are so human. Sometimes I laugh out loud and sometimes I cry along with them. It is this transparancy that made itvso accessable to me. I want to thank you all for the amazing and blessing work that you do!! It brought light back in my life…

  30. Elaine Ledlow says:

    This study has so made my life better and I continue to make imperfect progress daily. Today was a perfect example. I am a teacher and to supplement I am teaching summer school. We had a special exhibit on Mexican Folk Art, an hour of music and computer lab. I have 24 kids in my class and I did not have any one able to help with the lab. It was crazy stressful as I tried to teach all 24 to login and work on typing. My students are going into 4th grade and they are all eager to get everything in. Well after our busy morning we went to lunch. On Wed we have a pot luck and this week they were bbq hot dogs for the teachers. I was in line picked up my hot dogs stepped back to go inside to get the fixings and found an unlevel area and fell over backwards landing on my elbows and hips. I was unable to stand even with help so the principal had them call 911. She found an umbrella and stood over me with it to try to provide shade till help got there. Two of my fellow teachers (both men) came to me and prayed with me as did my principal. She is such a caring lady! The ambulance got there and I was still unable to stand so the para-medics lifted me onto a gurney and rolled me out to a waiting ambulance. My students saw me being rolled out and were really scared and many of my colleagues went to them and calmed them. On the way to the hospital I called my pastors Janie and Richard and they prayed with me. I called another close sister in Christ and she began praying and sent texts to all the prayer warriors she knew. I made one more call and truly did not expect an answer as she was picking up her (our) I adopted daughter and 3 kids in another town. Just so happens they had just returned to town and were at a place in the highway to come straight to the hospital. She then took Jessica our shared daughter to my school site and picked up my car. Jess than came to my home and told my husband who has many health issues what was going on and they returned to ER. After a somewhat bumpy painful ride we arrived at the ER. They were concerned that I had a broken hip and or pelvis. EMT’s transferred me to the ER bed because I was still having great pain and difficulty moving. The Dr came in and it was one who I have seen on numerous occasions when my husband has been there. He looked at me and said I knew I recognized the last name but not the first. ( You know you have been in the ER to many times when the doc recognizes your last name;) . They gave me a shot for pain and sent me to have x-rays. The pain began to subside and I was able to transfer myself from gurney to x-ray table. I returned to the ER and a smiling Dr came back in to say I had no fractures and he would be sending me home with pain meds. PTL! Through this entire episode I had very little fear and anxiety which is something very new for me, since my hubby cant drive and I was a bit afraid they were going to keep me. I am his only care giver and I usually break out in sweats and get nauseated at the thought of not being able to be there for him. Through this entire episode I felt a peace that I have longed for but usually not had when things go wrong. This was my third bible study with OBS and I got my signed copy of the new book last Friday! I want to thank each and every sister here for always keeping it real and not trying to hide behind a cliche! I love the openness and honesty that this community has. This Friday if I don’t win the Bible I will be ordering one as well as two books to share. I praise God that I can be a part of this and provide prayer and support when someone else is in need! Our God’s timing is so AWESOME! Praying for each of you and love you all in Christ. Sorry this is a bit rambling but I took a pain pill and I think it is catching up with me!

    • Elaine- wow you had an adventure! Praise the Lord you are okay, no broken bones, and thank goodness you had close friends & family & coworkers right there to take care of you & pray with you. What would we do without our support systems & prayer circles! Get some rest!

  31. I appreciate you guys so much! thank you for taking us on a short tour of your office – it is great to see a flurry of activity! God Bless You for all you do for the Lord and for us. May He Grow Your Ministry by leaps and bounds.

    Prayers going for all of you.

  32. I think it’s great what the Proverbs 31 Ministries is doing. I am so thankful that I came across your facebook page earlier this year. You all bless me so much every day through your postings, pictures, bible studies, and blogs. Please know that you are impacting lives, and keep it up!

  33. I am so thankful for all that I have learned from this study. I have always wanted to be a leader of a small group through our church but was never really sure I would know how to be a good leader. This study has given me many examples of all the AMAZING leaders we have and how I would benefit from each of you. You ladies are such a blessing I cannot thank you enough. :-)

  34. Melissa Chambers says:

    I have the Ebook version of the Bible featured in the video and it is AWESOME!

  35. The OBS has been great for me. It all started in a little bookstore in a little town way up in the mountains of Pennsylvania. The young owner guided me to some books by Lysa Terkeryst. It’s all been great since then. I purchased the Women’s Devontional Bible through P31 and I love it. I never owned a Bible prior to this. I haven’t written in it yet or marked it up (strange hurdle I have to cross), but I love just paging around in it and looking up things in the index. I have the You Version online, but just like the feel of a real book. So if anyone is considering it, do it. It’s a great resource, as are all the leaders at P31 a d our OBS. Thank you sisters in Christ.

  36. Dorothy says:

    So excited to start the new Study in July!!

  37. So thankful for this OBS! I have been blessed by the time spent reading God’s word and working through Stress-less Living. I am going through a health challenge with one of my daughters but I am seeking God and asking Him to work a miracle in my daughters life and to keep my eyes on Him through out the journey.